Hi Nonkyboy
Goodness, you have got a lot happening. Trust in your specialists as they seem to have it all in hand and, as Iserbrown said, it is good that they are considering everything carefully. They are weighing up the risks of each issue and if the boob issue was the biggest problem they would advise you to go ahead with surgery quickly, whatever happened. As it is, your care team are being cautious, they will have a plan and it will work out for the best.
Use your breast care nurse as a sounding board - she will have experience and be able to help you with your family's concerns as well.
You are in our thoughts and we will watch for you news. Keep in touch.
Hugs Summer :-)