Please will you all stop feeling guilty! Most of us vacillate from feeling lucky (about treatment dodged, or side effects we weren't blessed with, or great support or something else) to feeling unlucky (Why me? Why do they get good results and I don't? Why do I get one thing after another? And so on). Feeling guilty affects very little and is so unnecessary. Be happy you have less of a bad thing! Be positive about your future! Be glad! We have so many women facing very difficult and uncertain futures who still find joy and meaning in their lives. That's the model - getting on with a life to live as well as possible. There's not a moment to waste on feeling guilty for something you didn't choose.