Thank you to all for your comments and especially the love and concern from Sandramj. As women we all do what we have to - and more - and aren't we good at juggling ?
I guess my main issue is the lack of finance ($15,000 pa is not a lot) although I have been advised I can get a health care card so that will help with some things. I rang the surgeon and oncologist but neither of them accept that - they always charge an out of pocket. Oh well. If I have more issues over time guess who won't be getting the 'repeat business',eh ?
I am glad we made the decision to move to a regional area (from rural) as there are at least support services down here, especially in time a day care centre for my partner which will give me a break. (I guess you read that a "I made the decision" as he just went along with the idea - over time). I knew a problem was brewing and figured we'd be better to move earlier than later rather than gt him more confused.
Like most of us BC ladies, we have worked all our lives and get no help where some people come into the country and get everything - not fair. Yeah, Di, don't you just love the 'over 50' scenario?
Sending all big hugs and thanks for being here to listen to my grumbles.
Summer :-)