Hi Bellablor and welcome to the forum but also sorry that you are here. A lot of the ladies here are the same as yourself, cruising through life, never had any major sicknesses and then totally blindsided!!! The waiting is one of the hardest things because while you may appear calm to others on the outside inside you have the biggest case of the Screaming Meemies and of course everyone around you needs reassurance. So it's okay to become a sobbing mess, (I used to use a nightly soak in the bath tub and had a good cry when running the water so no one could hear me), it's totally ok to feel overwhelmed. This is certainly not an experience that would have been on your bucket list BUT you will get through it. Your appreciation for life, family, friends, sunshine, mostly everything will be heightened. Use the forum to get answers, piece of mind, to vent and help you through. As a whole unit we have an incredibly vast knowledge of breast cancer and tips and tricks to deal with it and we are all here for you. Big hugs, let us know how you're doing. Xx Cath