Sorry, just read your original post. Even so, if you only need lumpectomies, but you prefer both breasts off you will still need to push for that. I went with bilateral lumpectomies, but if they had said I need only one breast removed, I already told them I will want both removed.
It isn't an easy decision either way, but for me I chose the lesser surgery, but probably similar to what @TonyaM has expressed on similar threads, it gets terribly anxiety producing at mammogram time of the year. There isn't a right or wrong way/answer, but do what you feel is best for you. Every mammo time of the year I wonder if I should have had them removed. It of course doesn't mean the cancer won't return, but can be the right decision for some. I wish you all best, and sorry you find yourself in this "club". But we are here to support you, and you are in good hands here, so you can toss ideas around here and nobody will judge you nor your decision you make for yourself.