@ddon What a horrible time you have had. My heart goes out to you but it sounds like you have a strong & loving family so they will help you get through. It is a tough ride but you must try to think positive as stress fuels cancer so just try to focus on what you do know & not what may be around the corner as it may never come to that. Easier said than done.
I dont have kids but i can imagine how hard is it trying to deal with their emotions too. As mentioned above, a counselor can help you all if needed & I know my McGrath breast care nurse offered to counsel any members of my family too.
Try to take one day at a time & tick off each step as it presents itself. Take notes at appts & someone with you as an extra set of ears & also take help from all those that offer. People love to help out even its a meal, housework or school pickup. You need to concentrate on YOU so let others help you & your family by letting them in & taking some of the burden of the "everyday". Wishing you love & strength & lots of positive thoughts. You WILL get through this & we will all be here for you each step of the way. We all learn very quickly just how strong we can all be during this time. xxxx