You poor thing, so much to deal with! I feel like it’s taking forever as well, diagnosed a month ago and starting treatment in a week’s time. All happening in the middle of my 17 year old graduating year 12. Like you I have dense lumpy breasts which is how mine went undetected as well- and it seems to get bigger every day! So scary. Don’t worry about being SO strong for your family, let them be strong for you a bit. I’m getting my son to help me more and my sisters are coming over offering help too, my girlfriends are bringing soup portions for my freezer, it’s ok to let them rally round and support you. Lots of love.