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Eastmum
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8 years ago

Could really use some inspiration from a positive experience

Hi amazing  people - I'm new to this site and forum and so appreciative of all the information on here and the generosity of so many incredible people who have shared their stories.

I'm right at the beginning of things - just been diagnosed with invasive lobular carcinoma in both sides - ER/PR +ve, HER2 -ve - looks like I've probably had this for a year even though I've always had regular, comprehensive mammograms and ultrasounds. Very thorough investigations (2 mammograms, 2 ultrasonds + MRI) on large palpable mass and some architectural distortion 12 months ago still came up as nothing to worry about (suspected scar tissue from breast reduction 30 years ago) but further changes and architectural distortion got much worse over the year so off I went for repeat scans and this time it was obviously breast cancer. Lymph nodes look clear on ultrasound (no guarantees I know) and suspected low grade, stage 1 or 2 but again - won't know until they get in there. 

Haven't even had a proper post-biopsy consult with my Breast Surgeon yet because he's away until the end of the month but I'm about to go for staging scans - CT on chest, abdo, pelvis and full bone scan - and these freak me out so much more than the Breast Cancer diagnosis - is that weird?

Are there any stats out there on how many people have metastasized breast cancer right from the start? Do things like osteo-arthritis, old fractures, other inflammations show up as suspected secondaries? LIke, can you get a 'false positive' for mets? Or does Breast Cancer mets look very unique on these scans?

Right now all I can think of is the persistent cough I've had for a few months, the niggling pain in my lower back, headache and knee pain! I'm also quite overweight so that must contribute to some of those aches and pains. I've prepared myself for anything they will tell me (if you can ever really be prepared) but I'm trying hard not to 'write the chapter before it's happened' - as a very wise friend recently told me.

I don't want to give myself any false hope and I know I have to be prepared that there's always a chance they'll find mets but I'm obsessing over it a bit too much and I would really find some inspiration and it would help to get through the next few days if anyone out there might have also had aches, pains, coughs etc and ended up with clear staging scans at the start ??

Thanks again to all the 'warriors' out there. I hope that one day when I'm on the flip side of all of this, then I can also be of help and inspiration to someone :)

Eastmum 


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  • Oh @Eastmum, I'm so sorry you are here. But, you'll get lots of support here. 
    I was diagnosed with triple negative grade 3 tumour last April. Had lumpectomy, nodes out (clear) five months of chemo the in November bil mastectomies no recon, no radiation. I'm now in recovery still and plan to return to work end March. 
    Can I just say the early days are bloody horrendous. Not knowing what's going to happen, makes you feel like your world is spinning out of control. So... Back up the truck. Try not to look to far ahead. Just focus on each next step, scan, consult etc. it's too overwhelming to look at everything as a whole. 
    Scans, follow the preparation advice exactly, try and focus on being as calm ( yeah I know right!) during your scans for the best clearest pics. 
    As soon as you get a breast care nurse discuss everything with her. They are a wonderful support and have so much knowledge. 
    And, of course come on here often, ask us lots, we are here for you. Biggest, biggest hugs. Bec xxoo

  • @Mishie
    @Dany
    @Jane221
    @jjshep
    Can you ladies answer some of the questions that @Eastmum  has  I see from previous posts you all have gone through this type of cancer. 

    thanks 
    Soldercrab

  • hi @Eastmum
    when it is early stages of diagnosis we are all in a spin. I can't help with information on  invasive lobular carcinoma in both sides - ER/PR +ve, HER2 -ve   I had TNBC you will soon learn the differences as you come on here and chat with us. 

    why not give the Helpline from BCNA a call 
    The phone number for the BCNA helpline is 1800 500 258.

    Helpline hours are 9am to 5pm on Monday, Wednesday and Friday
    and
    9am to 9pm on Tuesday and Thursday.
    Calls to the helpline are free of charge when made from a landline and charged at standard rates when made from a mobile phone.

    you might also like the following links to help you find your way around the forum. 

     

    The what and how thread.

    http://onlinenetwork.bcna.org.au/discussion/14879/the-what-and-how-thread/p1

     

    Breast Care Nurses- do you have a Breast Care Nurse? you can see where your nearest is and call them if you have not got one yet.

    https://www.mcgrathfoundation.com.au/OurMission/OurNurses/FindANurse.aspx

     

    My Journey Kits and other resources.  Have you ordered your kit yet?  

    https://www.bcna.org.au/resources/


    Breathe, come on here ask questions and I am sure others will give you some information that will help you through this time. 

    Soldiercrab 

     

  • Hi @Eastmum.  I also have ILC and was diagnosed 6 weeks ago after a screening mammogram.  I was incredibly lucky (?!) that the mammographer picked up that something didn't look right.  My initial diagnosis was 2.5cm tumour with no likely node involvement.  I had the CT scans which are, I agree, scary, and for me, came back clear. (I'm surprised that they could get a clear scan as I was shaking so badly)  However, with surgery my tumour turned out to be 4.5cm without clear margins and with 3/5 lymph nodes involved.  I went to see my oncologist for the first time the other day and when he started going through my CT scans, I immediately thought the worst and that he was going to say that they'd missed something, but yes, arthritis does show up on the scans so those achy knees and hips and back are just that.  Interestingly, he said that he could barely pick the cancer on the scan.  ILC is a bitch on wheels.  The only thing that has got me through all of this so far is the knowledge that whatever it is, it is and not knowing is going to change that.  Only knowing what's there can change it.  Try not to Dr Google, take support from your family and friends and the lovely people on this network.  If you're really not coping, try to access counselling from your local Cancer Council.  I only got by in the first few weeks with Tamazepan and Serepax - at least I managed to get a couple of hours sleep without the mind spinning.  Gaye
  • Hi @Eastmum, sorry you have had to join us, but welcome. The body scans are standard to check if cancer has spread. I know how stressful the beginning is and all the what ifs. Try to just get through each hurdle as they come, easier said than done I know. You will find plenty of support here from all the amazing people. Arthritis I think shows up on bone scans and I would think looks different to mets. I'm sure someone else will be able to answer your questions. 
    Lisa.