Gosh @Roxette69, I certainly feel for you. I was told you're having chemo so I can't imagine having to make that decision myself. I'm 47 and yes the chemo put me into menopause, and those symptoms are bloody awful ( night sweats kill me ) but you know, I guess I wouldn't want to have a recurrence and wish I'd done the chemo ( shite can't believe we'd wish for chemo but you know what I mean). I also still consider myself young at 47 and wanted the best chance at a lot more years yet.
Sorry I can't be more helpful it's such a roller coaster the treatment ride. Hope you're recovering from surgery okay, it's a lot to deal with. Have you a breast care nurse you can chat to about all this too? Massive hugs xx