All Alone
I have just been diagnosed with Breast Cancer, my husband has had a stroke, trying to run a farm, family in Melbourne, cannot see anybody, surgery next week, I feel I am falling apart. I feel all al...
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Hi ayrhaven, welcome to this informative group of people who have been there and know exactly how you are feeling.
Some coping ideas that worked for me as my brain was always in overdrive and I couldn’t get a good night sleep.
I did a mindfulness and meditation short course, that help me keep in the moment and learnt some real good breathing techniques, yoga, lavender oil on my bed linen, massage.
With COVID 19, if you have access to the internet there may be something on line you can tap into regarding meditation, relaxation music .
Listening to any relaxation music and just concentrate on your breathing, taking deep breathes in holding for 5-10 counts and pushing it out 5-10 counts, do this for as long as you need.
I also got in contact with my GP to get something to help me sleep, I was prescribed something which helped me get some sleep, I found with sleep I was able to cope better during the day.
Can you arrange FaceTime with family and friends on a regular basis? I lived on social media during my illness as I to live on a rural property and my closet neighbour is a few kms away, and no family or friends live close by.
Most friends and family found out about my cancer via social media, except for my immediate family which was personal.
Everyone does things differently, you do what you think is best for you.
Sorry to hear about your husband, I’m not sure if you’re able to access help with your husband for a home care package from the government.
It sounds like you’re a strong woman , but it’s time to look after yourself during this time.
Some coping ideas that worked for me as my brain was always in overdrive and I couldn’t get a good night sleep.
I did a mindfulness and meditation short course, that help me keep in the moment and learnt some real good breathing techniques, yoga, lavender oil on my bed linen, massage.
With COVID 19, if you have access to the internet there may be something on line you can tap into regarding meditation, relaxation music .
Listening to any relaxation music and just concentrate on your breathing, taking deep breathes in holding for 5-10 counts and pushing it out 5-10 counts, do this for as long as you need.
I also got in contact with my GP to get something to help me sleep, I was prescribed something which helped me get some sleep, I found with sleep I was able to cope better during the day.
Can you arrange FaceTime with family and friends on a regular basis? I lived on social media during my illness as I to live on a rural property and my closet neighbour is a few kms away, and no family or friends live close by.
Most friends and family found out about my cancer via social media, except for my immediate family which was personal.
Everyone does things differently, you do what you think is best for you.
Sorry to hear about your husband, I’m not sure if you’re able to access help with your husband for a home care package from the government.
It sounds like you’re a strong woman , but it’s time to look after yourself during this time.
Do you live in a close rural community who can assist you with the farm? I have found living in a rural community people are so lovely and willing to help where they can.
I have an adult daughter with a disability, so I know how you’re feeling in regards to looking after your husband, when you really need to be putting all your energy in looking after yourself.
Lean on your GP heavily to help you get help for your husband, and for you as well, not sure if you know your neighbours well enough, to ask if they could help with your livestock and any essential farm work that is required.
Hopefully you have a good Breast care nurse who can guide you through this anxious time.
I found waiting for results are the pits, I use to keep myself so busy that I didn’t have time to think about it, I use to go for a ride around the property on my quad, like you just sit on the quad and watch the livestock, breath in the fresh air, wow I wish I had as many acres as you though.......
Ive only got 27 acres..... listen to music, sing along out loud, I didn’t have to worry about neighbours lol........
Being positive is what will get you through, you have been through so much in the past, you can get through this as well.
Keep safe during this COVID 19 pandemic, it’s a bonus being on a property during this time away from everyone.
Im here if you want to talk anytime, you can even send me a private message and we can have a chat.
I have an adult daughter with a disability, so I know how you’re feeling in regards to looking after your husband, when you really need to be putting all your energy in looking after yourself.
Lean on your GP heavily to help you get help for your husband, and for you as well, not sure if you know your neighbours well enough, to ask if they could help with your livestock and any essential farm work that is required.
Hopefully you have a good Breast care nurse who can guide you through this anxious time.
I found waiting for results are the pits, I use to keep myself so busy that I didn’t have time to think about it, I use to go for a ride around the property on my quad, like you just sit on the quad and watch the livestock, breath in the fresh air, wow I wish I had as many acres as you though.......
Ive only got 27 acres..... listen to music, sing along out loud, I didn’t have to worry about neighbours lol........
Being positive is what will get you through, you have been through so much in the past, you can get through this as well.
Keep safe during this COVID 19 pandemic, it’s a bonus being on a property during this time away from everyone.
Im here if you want to talk anytime, you can even send me a private message and we can have a chat.
You are STRONG you are WOMAN !
Sending big hugs and positive vibes your way, take care and be kind to yourself xx