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A tiny inflatable boat in a huge storm
Like many others, here I am joining this not-so-sought-after club- and feeling very much like a tiny inflatable boat in a stormy sea. I‘be just been diagnosed this week, although the process has be...
Thank you so much @Cath62 and I’m so sorry that you have had to deal with this - and so much treatment too. That is some very hard-won wisdom right there!
Putting myself first is often quite hard, not because of some sense of martyrdom but because it’s just my natural inclination and my field of work to help other people! I am so used to being in that mode and I enjoy being useful, being kind, having an impact in other peoples’ lives. I see myself as capable, sensible, able to get things done. You’ve made me realise that it is quite a shift for me for stop and accept help, and also that there is no way to “do cancer right” or be a model patient. I don’t know how yet but I have to let go of some of those ideas and just be kind and useful to MYSELF first.
I’ve also made an appt with my psychologist, so I hope she’s ready for all this introspection 😂😂😂
Putting myself first is often quite hard, not because of some sense of martyrdom but because it’s just my natural inclination and my field of work to help other people! I am so used to being in that mode and I enjoy being useful, being kind, having an impact in other peoples’ lives. I see myself as capable, sensible, able to get things done. You’ve made me realise that it is quite a shift for me for stop and accept help, and also that there is no way to “do cancer right” or be a model patient. I don’t know how yet but I have to let go of some of those ideas and just be kind and useful to MYSELF first.
I’ve also made an appt with my psychologist, so I hope she’s ready for all this introspection 😂😂😂