27 year old lobular carcinoma

I agree with the others.  The issues with the underarm are the most difficult part (physically) with the surgery so it pays to be pushy.  I have ongoing cording (I'd never heard of it before and my current GP has never heard of it but it affects many of us), have little sensation but odd pains, and worry a lot about the possibility of lymphoedema.  If you need it, you need it but it's not something to go into lightly.  And it's something you don't get told much about beforehand.  As @zoffiel says - you will deal with this the same way as you deal with any crisis where you are the centre of attention.  While I appreciated help, I didn't want to be crowded and I let some good friends deal with keeping people up to date until I got a blog sorted.