Hi @youngdogmum ... Sorry to see you here, but the wealth of information from those who’ve gone before you may help to allay some of your fears.
Great that your body and bone scans are clear. That’s a good start.
I was diagnosed with ILC in Jan ‘18 and had breast conserving surgery/lumpectomy, dodged the chemo bullet and had 4 weeks radiation and now on hormone tablets. My pathology was good. Clear margins and not in lymph nodes and I was back doing basically everything I love doing within a month of surgery, tho had to be wary of road bumps for some months (holding my boob to lessen the ‘bounce’)
Try not to 2nd guess everything before you see the experts ... Dr Google will just muck with your head. Everyone’s situation is totally different and what worked for one may not work for another. I didn’t see my Med oncologist til after I had my radiation .... tho my surgeon and his team had advised me early on that I would be going on to hormone tablets to lessen the chance of recurrence ..... but I was already menopausal.
Take one day at a time, get over the surgery first, the rest will slot in place over time. It is a scarey ride, but we are here to help you thru it.
keep talking with your husband as he will be just as scared as you are ....., I hope you have supportive family and friends to help you out after the surgery as you will have some restrictions in movement initially.
Take me care and all the best with your surgery and pathology results. Xxxx