Danielle, it is incredibly overwhelming and especially the way you found out, but what a blessing when you think about it. You are also right, nobody in your life will get it unless they have been through it or are going through it. They will be supportive to a point, but Ive found this forum invaluable because we all GET IT! and all our collective experiences certainly will help absolutely! Only once you have the Lumpectomy and get pathology will you know exactly and precisely what you have and then you'll be told your treatment plan and at least then you will have some direction. Until then you are left floundering in confusion and disbelief and rightfully so! Ive been through this twice now in 6yrs 2011 and 2015 which was devastating 2nd time as I did everything to make sure it was gone. Its sneaky, and unexpected but have faith in your Team and above all else have faith in yourself that you will rise to the challenge and you SO WILL!!! and we'll all be here right behind you! Hugs Melinda xo