Ups and downs

Hi, I agree with Cath, it's quite sensible to think about your funeral from time to time.  While going through treatment we have very little control over our lives so it's nice to plan something.  

However if it worries you, and I guess it must or you wouldn't be raising it hear, counselling is often helpful.  I found I could say what I thought to the counsellor, whereas often with family and friends I felt the need to put on a positive face.  So it was good for me to talk to a professional.  I cried a lot sometimes and when I apologized she laughed and said that she was a cancer counsellor and used to people crying.  Crying can be theureputic I find. 

Best wishes Karen 

Hi @Brach518, Have you thought of perhaps ringing the Cancer Counsel help line PH: 131120, that is of course if you are trying to stop funeral thoughts, they have their support line and it might help talking to someone about it. On the other hand I personally don't see anything wrong with thinking about planning our own funerals particularly with the range of caskets and ceremonies that can be tailored to our personalities these days. Doesn't mean you're planning on using it tomorrow or next week but realistically they are an expensive last outing that can be planned ahead and I don't see anything morbid about it. Big hugs to you, Julie. You're still sounding pretty positive to me. Xx Cath