Mild anxiety

Thanks Finita,  encouraging words thank you.  Next week will be full on, fly to brisbane on Monday, appointment with radio therapy Tuesday, fly back home Wednesday, appointment with oncologist Friday, decisions on chemo. Talk about being thrown in!  

So pleased for being able to seek advice on this site.  Janet xx

Janet,

just to say that all is very normal regarding anxiety, horrible menopause , moods swings , pains and aches etc...  Also don't waste precious time thinking about how there are others worse than you. We are all different and we must all deal with it in our own way.    Don't push yourself, don't rush or go crazy on dieting etc...  I will be 2 years next February , and one does learn to move on, but every 3 to 6 months check -ups will bring on the anxiety ., as it will be the reminder of your bc.   I am not an artist, but like you I do love painting , and I keep active with gardening, walking , game playing and the computer. 

Make everyday count and make the most , but on your down days, just give yourself permission to relax and accept that it is all part of having bc.  Life will never be as before, but in time you will get used to the  NEW NORMAL , and find that it can be quite good !!   I find that I no longer worry as I used to about things in general ,and that is a bonus .  LIFE GOES ON !!

Best wishes from one of your BCNA sister ,

love

Finita xxxxxxxxxxxx

Janet,

just to say that all is very normal regarding anxiety, horrible menopause , moods swings , pains and aches etc...  Also don't waste precious time thinking about how there are others worse than you. We are all different and we must all deal with it in our own way.    Don't push yourself, don't rush or go crazy on dieting etc...  I will be 2 years next February , and one does learn to move on, but every 3 to 6 months check -ups will bring on the anxiety ., as it will be the reminder of your bc.   I am not an artist, but like you I do love painting , and I keep active with gardening, walking , game playing and the computer. 

Make everyday count and make the most , but on your down days, just give yourself permission to relax and accept that it is all part of having bc.  Life will never be as before, but in time you will get used to the  NEW NORMAL , and find that it can be quite good !!   I find that I no longer worry as I used to about things in general ,and that is a bonus .  LIFE GOES ON !!

Best wishes from one of your BCNA sister ,

love

Finita xxxxxxxxxxxx

Well congratulations on having only mild anxiety: that is an achievement or a strength right there. I can't think of anyone who wouldn't have anxiety with bc: so give yourself permission to have it, and thankfully in my experience it does move on and get better and then comes back and so on. I forget my prognosis percentage but a year later I'm mostly in the positive space but also its ok when I find myself in the life threatening -uncertainty part of the picture. i agree with above posts about helpful things but also it takes time to adjust to this and I can relate to wanting to 'bunker down' too.

When I complained to my Oncoologist about the horrid hot flushes, and said removal of ovaries and going straight onto Arimidex was all too much for my body to handle, she said "you probably would have had a hard time with menopause when you got there naturally anyway". And that was that.

My GP has put me onto a very mild anti depression, this has not stopped my hot flushes completely but certainly has made them less intense and less frequent and bearable.

I don't think they make my mood any better, but if they do I am more than happy to keep taking this one little white tablet a day.

I am 12 months down the track and the roller coaster keeps going.

All the best with your future treatment.

Candice

It must be very difficult for people like yourself who have to take time off work and travel so far for treatment. It is hard enough dealing with a BC diagnosis without these additional issues. Leaving your home and presumably your personal support network of friends and family and your normal routine of work and living must be very hard. So don't feel that you should just be able to pull yourself together and cope with all this. In saying that though you do deserve to feel as good as possible so getting assistance at this time is a really good idea. The cancer council is brilliant for counseling and also for financial assistance info. You may be eligible for assistance with travel and living away from home while undergoing your radio treatment. I think it helps to let others help out and recognize that this is a tough time for you. Acknowledge to yourself that you are doing very well considering. Being diagnosed with BC is not easy and letting others give you some support (and realizing that you deserve this and would probably be the first to help someone else in the same situation) will make it easier for you. Keep in contact with the ladies on here, especially while you are more isolated during treatment. It really does help. Wishing you well with radiotherapy. Take care. Deanne xxx

It must be very difficult for people like yourself who have to take time off work and travel so far for treatment. It is hard enough dealing with a BC diagnosis without these additional issues. Leaving your home and presumably your personal support network of friends and family and your normal routine of work and living must be very hard. So don't feel that you should just be able to pull yourself together and cope with all this. In saying that though you do deserve to feel as good as possible so getting assistance at this time is a really good idea. The cancer council is brilliant for counseling and also for financial assistance info. You may be eligible for assistance with travel and living away from home while undergoing your radio treatment. I think it helps to let others help out and recognize that this is a tough time for you. Acknowledge to yourself that you are doing very well considering. Being diagnosed with BC is not easy and letting others give you some support (and realizing that you deserve this and would probably be the first to help someone else in the same situation) will make it easier for you. Keep in contact with the ladies on here, especially while you are more isolated during treatment. It really does help. Wishing you well with radiotherapy. Take care. Deanne xxx