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dumb thing people say
Took the dog for a long walk to clear my head, and get some happy hormones pumping.
Husband asked if I was ok because I seemed a bit cranky, I told him I was terrified about surgery tomorrow and he said "you should be excited you are getting the tumor out"
NOT VERY HELPFUL
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yes l agree people thing that cause chemo radation finished youre back to normal , and you are supposed to be able to do what you used to prior cancer , l was at the vets for sedation for me dog anyway the vet was explaining the medication l want for the dog was not good and hads bad effects , then in the next breath she said look its like you coming in here asking for chemo so youre hair falls out well l burst into tear then she said oh did l something wrong mind you the reception girl was there and knew what ld gone through she was horrifieof the comment of the vet made quietly she passed me the tissues , its hard enought going though all of this cancer stuff treatment hair loss nails lost without people and there comments some people just dont think
yes l agree people thing that cause chemo radation finished youre back to normal , and you are supposed to be able to do what you used to prior cancer , l was at the vets for sedation for me dog anyway the vet was explaining the medication l want for the dog was not good and hads bad effects , then in the next breath she said look its like you coming in here asking for chemo so youre hair falls out well l burst into tear then she said oh did l something wrong mind you the reception girl was there and knew what ld gone through she was horrifieof the comment of the vet made quietly she passed me the tissues , its hard enought going though all of this cancer stuff treatment hair loss nails lost without people and there comments some people just dont think
- Hi Ibirch, so sorry to hear about your path results, they are a bit of a bugger. Last year each time I saw the Dr there seemed to be a bit more bad news. I got to the point that I became paranoid that his visits would always mean more bad news. Like you, I was graded at a 3, when initially they thought my 4 mm tumour would be a grade 1 and only require a lumpectomy and radiotherapy. I had 2 surgeries in the end, and came out of hospital last year on Christmas morning, to the best news ever. I ended up having a mastectomy and half my lymph nodes removed, but though the tumour was actually 21mm, and grade 3, it hadn't moved to the lymph nodes, but had a lot of lymphovascular formation. I would still need chemo. 12 months later, I'm feeling great. My hair is growing back, I've had a prophylactic mastectomy on the other side and have tissue expanders, and a bust line again. My exchange will happen in 3 weeks. I wish you good results with your scans, and hope that the next year isn't too bad for you. For me it wasn't as bad as I imagined. The chemo didn't knock me around, so I hope you will also be ok with it. I can not believe a year has passed since my "journey" began. Love Chris xx
Yeh,"journey" sounds like you are going on some fun trip and that it ain't!! We will have to think of another term. So sorry Ibirch to hear about your "not so good"results.I think going for those body/bone scans and then waiting for the results put your anxiety levels through the roof.Must be hard to get the Christmas spirit happening when you"ve got more surgery and tests to face afterwards.Maybe some of the other type of spirit might help.
Tonya xx
bad news. Biopsy results, upgrade to 3, lymph nodes have cancer, body scans and bone scans on 29th and more surgery on 3rd, axillary clearence and more breast. HER2 positive.
Does any one else hate the words, breast cancer journey?
My dear sisters thank you so much for all your support. Agendum I have been married for 30 years( my typing isnt great oopps!) I have been to see my medical onc and she has given me some tab. Efexor has anyone else been on those? and I have been to see the councillor and the social worker. All very helpful . This has been a year of loss ,people who I thought were friends and turned out not to be,others who make my cancer all about them and now this. What doesn't kill you eh? One good thing is that I am still on herceptin every three weeks so I am still connected to all the services at the hospital and this has been a blessing. Wishing you all peaceful and healthy Christmas's Love hilary xx
My dear sisters thank you so much for all your support. Agendum I have been married for 30 years( my typing isnt great oopps!) I have been to see my medical onc and she has given me some tab. Efexor has anyone else been on those? and I have been to see the councillor and the social worker. All very helpful . This has been a year of loss ,people who I thought were friends and turned out not to be,others who make my cancer all about them and now this. What doesn't kill you eh? One good thing is that I am still on herceptin every three weeks so I am still connected to all the services at the hospital and this has been a blessing. Wishing you all peaceful and healthy Christmas's Love hilary xx
- That's horrible and really selfish too! The first time I had treatment, I met a young mum with a three year old and a 17 month old whose husband left her because he couldn't handle it! He said he might come back when treatment was finished!! No thanks!!
- That's horrible and really selfish too! The first time I had treatment, I met a young mum with a three year old and a 17 month old whose husband left her because he couldn't handle it! He said he might come back when treatment was finished!! No thanks!!
Just read your blog Hilary -can't believe your husband said that to you.If he really cared about getting you through bc then he should have have kept his mouth shut.Are we supposed to think how noble,he has morals-he's got to be kidding!!Unfortunately this bc journey can either make you stronger as a couple or drive you apart.I'm so sorry this is happening to you now-yes,seek counselling and a lawyer??
Tonya xx
