Took the dog for a long walk to clear my head, and get some happy hormones pumping.
Husband asked if I was ok because I seemed a bit cranky, I told him I was terrified about surgery tomorrow and he said "you should be excited you are getting the tumor out"
NOT VERY HELPFUL
Yes Lynne, this is such a wonderful site, you are constantly inspired by such lovely ladies who are always there to help and offer advice despite their own problems. You can relax and be yourself and know that no-one is judging you or telling you to "be positive" all the time. They understand what you're going through and when they say "I know how you feel", they really do, and they are only too happy to assist you in any way they can so as to make your journey a little easier. We are so lucky to have a place where we can just be ourselves, to ask for advice, to vent, and to know that the pink ladies really "do understand".
Dale xx
Yes Lynne, this is such a wonderful site, you are constantly inspired by such lovely ladies who are always there to help and offer advice despite their own problems. You can relax and be yourself and know that no-one is judging you or telling you to "be positive" all the time. They understand what you're going through and when they say "I know how you feel", they really do, and they are only too happy to assist you in any way they can so as to make your journey a little easier. We are so lucky to have a place where we can just be ourselves, to ask for advice, to vent, and to know that the pink ladies really "do understand".
Dale xx
Well put Dale. People seem to think that because the hair has grown and the red from the radiation is gone, everything is back to normal. You might look all right on the outside but under the clothing, and under the skin, all is not well and takes quite a bit to get used to. It isn't easy but reading the blogs from people in here that have been through the process is just so inspiring.
Hope everything went well.
Lynne XX
I think people are in such shock that they don't realise that what they say really hurts the person concerned. When I rang my mother to tell her that I had breast cancer, her answer......."I knew, I just knew you had breast cancer". I was dumfounded, I couldn't believe what she had just said. I never answered her back because "I wouldn't be that rude!" It's like when people constantly tell you to "be positive", they don't know what you're feeling, you try to be positive but sometimes it's just not that easy.
Good luck with your operation and we'll be thinking of you.
Dale xx
I think people are in such shock that they don't realise that what they say really hurts the person concerned. When I rang my mother to tell her that I had breast cancer, her answer......."I knew, I just knew you had breast cancer". I was dumfounded, I couldn't believe what she had just said. I never answered her back because "I wouldn't be that rude!" It's like when people constantly tell you to "be positive", they don't know what you're feeling, you try to be positive but sometimes it's just not that easy.
Good luck with your operation and we'll be thinking of you.
Dale xx
My husband drove me so crazy during my chemo sessions in 2002, that when I had chemo for a small new cancer this year, I went alone!! He was really supportive in his own way, but he kept making lame jokes and insensitive comments without meaning to. Lately, he has asked my surgeon if I'll turn into a bitch when the chemo brings on menopause (my female surgeon just gave him a withering look). He's also been known to ask if there's a catalogue that HE can pick my new boobs from. He thinks it's hilarious. He's never quite understood why mammograms and doctor's visits put me on edge for several days before. Thank goodness the girls on here understand! All the very best for your surgery. xx Jane
My husband drove me so crazy during my chemo sessions in 2002, that when I had chemo for a small new cancer this year, I went alone!! He was really supportive in his own way, but he kept making lame jokes and insensitive comments without meaning to. Lately, he has asked my surgeon if I'll turn into a bitch when the chemo brings on menopause (my female surgeon just gave him a withering look). He's also been known to ask if there's a catalogue that HE can pick my new boobs from. He thinks it's hilarious. He's never quite understood why mammograms and doctor's visits put me on edge for several days before. Thank goodness the girls on here understand! All the very best for your surgery. xx Jane
Hello,
Wishing you good luck for tomorrow. I think sometimes husband's feel like they have to always be positive and put on a front when they may be scared too but not wish to admit it.
Julia
Hello,
Wishing you good luck for tomorrow. I think sometimes husband's feel like they have to always be positive and put on a front when they may be scared too but not wish to admit it.
Julia
