Hi Kathleen, I think it's a great idea to start up this blog about anxiety and depression - as it certainly needs to be addressed. I myself suffer from panic attacks and I have a couple of people tell me "to just get over I". I wish it was that simple. I find that when I am tired I am worse. Good on you for starting on this topic. Love, Ruth xxx

Thanks so much Ruth! I was hoping it would be a good thing! Be assured, you can't be told to "just get over it", as people think they can do with depressed persons...asking them; "so what are you depressed about?" I've put my hand up for depression counseling, and looking forward to it. It happens to many of us, can be for many reasons, and talking about it helps I think. Hopefully we'll get some more members and throw some support and strategies around! Love from Kathleen xx

Hi Kathleen, I could not find the page yesterday so I continue to do so today and I am very happy to have found it 'depression and anxiety' ! thank you for starting this page Love Finita xxxxxxxxxxx

Dear Finita I'm very glad you found it! I know a lot of we girls share insomnia problems, worry and depression. So I thought I would start a new line if discussion. It will help all of us to share our feelings in this way. It is a normal reaction as a result of our condition, how we accept it, how our families accept it and most importantly how we choose to deal with it. And if course to be aware that the medication we need to be on for breast cancer can, in itself, be a a cause of all of these negative feelings. Don't be afraid to talk here-we all experience it differently, and having this thread I hope will help us all and give us new and positive strategies that we can share. Welcome and thanks so much for joining! Take care Love from Kathleen xx

Hi Finita and Kathleen, I am so glad that I have you girls to talk to. People don't understand. I have a Friend who thinks I'm okay and should go back to doing everything. which I morealess am except for driving. I am still sore and I have had no help or sympathy from her. She is the one who told me to just get over my panic attacks. But when something goes wrong with her she expects all the sympathy and even has a Husband to help her. I try to be positive and manage on my own but it seems as though she is jealous of me or something. I just don't get it.

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Bella314
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11 years ago
thanks Ruth, its good to know I'm not alone x
shortlionruth
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11 years ago
Thanks Bella. I have the same problem as you with the weight. I was really trying to lose it and lost nothing. I guess I just have to accept it but it would be nice to lose some. Love, Ruth xxx
Bella314
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11 years ago
Ah Ruth, there is a lot happening with you. Take care.
Bella314
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11 years ago
Loving the colouring the greys with burgundy...go girl!

Hope all goes well with hubby's surgery.

Glad the Lovan is working, sort of. I guess we all adjust to a new "normal". Funny reading about the weight ups and downs, mine just keeps going up! I tell my hubby he now has twice the woman he married :)

All good at this end. Take care xxx
finita
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11 years ago
Hi Bella,

I am very happy for you that all went well with your trip and that you are back at work. All the best with the surgeon regarding your operation, you poor darling. Not to mention your posible bilateral mastectomy . Take good care and keep us informed.

About my husband, we saw the surgeon and it may be 3-4 weeks before he has his lumpectomy done. Then the lump will be sent to pathology for further investigation.

As for me, I have been doing well, the lovan ( anti-irritabilty medication ) is working, although I am still not used to at being so relaxed, but at least no more horrible mood swings , infact, I really don't seem to care too much about anything ... I do like my new uncomplicated life. But I have been having lots of pains and aches, and that could be Spring messing me up together with the Arimidex **not complaining , just saying ** also something very strange has happened...I had gained 5 kilos with the arimidex, and in these last weeks I have been going down back to my normal weight...I wonder if it will be only temporary ? Mind you, I was really getting used to being a little fuller, because my jeans fitted better. I am usually 55k and I went to 60k . It really doesn't matter although the scar on my breast is now uglier because my boobs are not as full ... hahahahahah!!! My next appointment with the surgeon will be on the 7th Oct . It is funny how my anxiety level goes up 2-3 weeks prior to see the doctor . Anyway, tomorrow will be my beauty treatment day, meaning, that I will be covering my greys with Burgundy hair colour and make myself respectable and will be visiting my mum on Sunday .

take care and all my love

Finita xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
shortlionruth
Member
11 years ago
Glad your trip went well, Bella. My Daughter went to Brisbane on wednesday as she also carries the braca 2 and the Lynch Syndrome. Although she is only 37, she is having a hysterectomy in early November as this will reduce the risk of her getting Breast Cancer. I am category 1 to have a colonoscopy and I saw the anestetist Yesterday. It is a constant round of appointments lately with physio, urologists etc. I am feeling good but tire easily.
Bella314
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11 years ago
Thanks Kathleen, I'm well. Back from our big holiday, and as I said...no missed flights, no luggage lost, nothing broken and we didn't get sick. Had a great time; now back at work.

Have got the ball rolling now with the surgeon re ovary/fallopian tube removal and have a couple of things lined up to talk with more people about bilateral mastectomy. Not sure what to do in that regard, so at this stae, will just gather as much information as I can in order to make an informed decision. Am going to an information day next month for BRCA1 and 2 carriers, hopefully will come away from that with a lot of info.

Glad you're enjoying your grandkids, I cant wait until I have some (even one would do :) ).

Take care,

Bella x
KathleenT
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11 years ago
Hi Bella I'm fine. It happens like this with the posts-you get lots fir a time, then it goes quiet. I've had my medication changed-not sure if it's an improvement or not. Some days are great-others aren't. Apart from not much money, I'm good; still loving my days with grandkids. They keep me positive. Time is going too quick. How about you? Hugs Kathleen xx
Bella314
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11 years ago
Everyone has gone very quiet. Is everyone OK? Bella.
Bella314
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11 years ago
Everyone has gone very quiet. Is everyone OK? Bella.