Hi Kathleen, I think it's a great idea to start up this blog about anxiety and depression - as it certainly needs to be addressed. I myself suffer from panic attacks and I have a couple of people tell me "to just get over I". I wish it was that simple. I find that when I am tired I am worse. Good on you for starting on this topic. Love, Ruth xxx

Thanks so much Ruth! I was hoping it would be a good thing! Be assured, you can't be told to "just get over it", as people think they can do with depressed persons...asking them; "so what are you depressed about?" I've put my hand up for depression counseling, and looking forward to it. It happens to many of us, can be for many reasons, and talking about it helps I think. Hopefully we'll get some more members and throw some support and strategies around! Love from Kathleen xx

Hi Kathleen, I could not find the page yesterday so I continue to do so today and I am very happy to have found it 'depression and anxiety' ! thank you for starting this page Love Finita xxxxxxxxxxx

Dear Finita I'm very glad you found it! I know a lot of we girls share insomnia problems, worry and depression. So I thought I would start a new line if discussion. It will help all of us to share our feelings in this way. It is a normal reaction as a result of our condition, how we accept it, how our families accept it and most importantly how we choose to deal with it. And if course to be aware that the medication we need to be on for breast cancer can, in itself, be a a cause of all of these negative feelings. Don't be afraid to talk here-we all experience it differently, and having this thread I hope will help us all and give us new and positive strategies that we can share. Welcome and thanks so much for joining! Take care Love from Kathleen xx

Hi Finita and Kathleen, I am so glad that I have you girls to talk to. People don't understand. I have a Friend who thinks I'm okay and should go back to doing everything. which I morealess am except for driving. I am still sore and I have had no help or sympathy from her. She is the one who told me to just get over my panic attacks. But when something goes wrong with her she expects all the sympathy and even has a Husband to help her. I try to be positive and manage on my own but it seems as though she is jealous of me or something. I just don't get it.

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Bella314
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11 years ago
Everyone has gone very quiet. Is everyone OK? Bella.
shortlionruth
Member
11 years ago
Hi Ladies,

I had to ignore this Neighbour because as well as the lies she starting asking me for money. That is not on . All the other Neighbours are for me which is good. I had my 50th Birthday on the 28th August. I celebrated it with our Support Group's 10th Birthday Party and had a great time. My Friend also put on a lovely Party at her place on the Saturday. She also took me to the Ginger Factory and Nutworks. I was totally spoilt. I'm glad everything is not so bad for you Husband, Finita and glad that you are having a great time. Bella. xxxxxxxxx
Bella314
Member
11 years ago
Excellent news!
finita
Member
11 years ago
Hello to all my sisters,

I hope that you are all doing well.

Today we went to the doctor to get my husband fna & us results, and so far all is good , because it says that there was no malignancy in the cytology test . It appears to be fat necrosis ?? Anyway, he will see the surgeon in November to have the small lump removed and sent to pathology again. At least it doesn't appears to be sinister but we just have to wait and see.

love you all and take care

finita xxxxxxxxxxxxx
shortlionruth
Member
11 years ago
Hello Girls. Well, one of my other Neighbours tried to end her life because of this nasty, evil Woman. This nasty Woman rang housing and told her that she was using vulgarity and that I approached her and abused her. Both lies. When the other Neighbour rang housing they accused us of this because the nasty Neighbour is a compulsive lier and fed them a sob story and tried to get us put out but nobody in the units likes her anyway. She is smoking pot and is bi-polar which is not a good combination. Anyway, someone is coming on Tuesday to help us out and we have witnesses. I don't know why People behave like this when all I want is a peaceful life without the hastle. Maybe she sees me enjoying my life and is jealous. Who knows? Anyway, thanks for all your support and I will keep you posted. Love Ruth xxx
finita
Member
11 years ago
Hi Ruth,

I am so happy to hear that you went for a drive and it felt FANTASTIC... good for you , and do keep it up ...free like a bird again ! How wonderful. xxx

I am sorry to hear about the problems with your nosy nasty neighbour...that is truly horrible. I never could and never will understand why some people are the way they are...so truly horrid . Honestly you have been through hell and back and now this . Could we be talking about jealousy again ? because what else could it be? It seems like she is not a very nice person , but as you do know her and I don't , you will still have to tread carefully . Goodluck and keep us informed with the outcome .

Continue to enjoy life and love yourself enough so as not to let idiots worry you.

take care and lots of love down your way

Finita xxxxxxxxx
KathleenT
Member
11 years ago
Dearest Finita You have made me feel so much better with everything youve said. Thanks so much. You're right of course, my cancer care and grandchildren are the best to focus on at the moment. Having said that, I missed out talking to my mother on the phone today, because I had fallen asleep in my chair at 1.30 pm!! Disgusting! I have a fair but of self loathing tonight. All I did was get up early in the beautiful weather, caught the vline to southern cross, up collins st on the tram to the nespresso shop to get my coffee pods. I found they'd moved to The Emporium, so I walked there, got them, was back home by lunch time. Fancy falling asleep after that tiny bit of exercise. So frustrating. Thanks again for your lovely mssg. All the hugs and kisses right back at you!! Xxoo K
finita
Member
11 years ago
Hi Kathleen,

The problem with your sister is indeed very painful and believe me , I have also been there ,and sadly I just don't get to see my nieces or even have contact because they do as my sister tells them ...poor darlings!

As for feeling guilty, please don't because you have nothing to feel guilty about. Actually you should be feeling very proud that you are foccusing on your treatment, anxiety , depresseion and grandchildren as it is the right thing to.

In the past I used to feel guilty for just about anything regarding the family ...I could never do enough and never did care for myself. When I started councelling , the first thing that I had to learn was , how to stop feeling guilty and start looking after myself. It took for ever and finally it was my cancer that has finally stopped all the guilt feelings. Now , I do what I can , when I can and if I feel up to it...I no longer force or push myself as I used to always . I have always been a doer and a giver and now I don't in anyway feel selfish. About my mum, the cancer has also helped me with my guilt feelings, and I have learned to accept that we can only do so much , the rest is in Gods hands.

We are not superwomen , we are mere humans in need to give but also recive . We must love ourselves enough so as not to feel guilty or selfish and we all need plenty of ...TLC !!

Take care and lots of love down your way

Finita xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
KathleenT
Member
11 years ago
Dear Ruth Thanks for your message. I can't believe the actions of your neighbour! How childish! Yes, it does hurt with my sister's non contact. You're absolutely right - it's great to have all the girls on here to vent to. I dont know what to suggest about your neighbour. Maybe you need a mediator. I'd be confonting her about the lying. That's unforgivable! Hugs Kathleen xxoo
shortlionruth
Member
11 years ago
Hello Kathleen. So glad that all went well at the Counselors. It is good to get it off your chest. I know where you are coming from with your Sister and I know how it hurts. I would be lost without my good Friends and you girls to share with. I went for a drive Today, the first time since my op and it felt great to get around on my own again. I am having hassles with a very nasty Neighbour who has been stealing plants from my garden and spreading lies. This only happened because she went through my kitchen cupboards and I told her that I didn't appreciate her doing it. She stormed out and has tried to make trouble since. She told someone that I didn't even have an operation. I don't know why people have to be like that. I am just greatful to be here and want to lead a peaceful life. Love, Ruth xxx