Hi Kathleen, I think it's a great idea to start up this blog about anxiety and depression - as it certainly needs to be addressed. I myself suffer from panic attacks and I have a couple of people tell me "to just get over I". I wish it was that simple. I find that when I am tired I am worse. Good on you for starting on this topic. Love, Ruth xxx

Thanks so much Ruth! I was hoping it would be a good thing! Be assured, you can't be told to "just get over it", as people think they can do with depressed persons...asking them; "so what are you depressed about?" I've put my hand up for depression counseling, and looking forward to it. It happens to many of us, can be for many reasons, and talking about it helps I think. Hopefully we'll get some more members and throw some support and strategies around! Love from Kathleen xx

Hi Kathleen, I could not find the page yesterday so I continue to do so today and I am very happy to have found it 'depression and anxiety' ! thank you for starting this page Love Finita xxxxxxxxxxx

Dear Finita I'm very glad you found it! I know a lot of we girls share insomnia problems, worry and depression. So I thought I would start a new line if discussion. It will help all of us to share our feelings in this way. It is a normal reaction as a result of our condition, how we accept it, how our families accept it and most importantly how we choose to deal with it. And if course to be aware that the medication we need to be on for breast cancer can, in itself, be a a cause of all of these negative feelings. Don't be afraid to talk here-we all experience it differently, and having this thread I hope will help us all and give us new and positive strategies that we can share. Welcome and thanks so much for joining! Take care Love from Kathleen xx

Hi Finita and Kathleen, I am so glad that I have you girls to talk to. People don't understand. I have a Friend who thinks I'm okay and should go back to doing everything. which I morealess am except for driving. I am still sore and I have had no help or sympathy from her. She is the one who told me to just get over my panic attacks. But when something goes wrong with her she expects all the sympathy and even has a Husband to help her. I try to be positive and manage on my own but it seems as though she is jealous of me or something. I just don't get it.

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Bella314
Member
11 years ago
Ruth, you are certainly being put through the hoops. I hope your test results are all good.

I had a bit of meltdown earlier in the week, just very teary etc; and then they rescheduled my laprascopy. I totally lost it. I was told they found cancer in my ovary in early November - as a result of elective surgery to have them removed. Things just seem to be dragging on, and I cant start chemo until the results of the laprascopy are in; and I have healed up from that. At this stage I'm scheduled for next Wednesday, hope I don't get bumped again. Apart from the stress, there is also the question of travel/accommodation/husband having to take time off work/getting the dog boarded etc. I know I can apply for IPTAAS, but that takes ages to come through. The hostel accommodation at the hospital which was available has gone, so now we have to book a motel; the friends who were going to mind our dog are going away, so we have to pay to have her boarded; it just goes on. I know there are people much worse off than me, but I think the stress is getting to me. Funnily enough, the person who talked the most sense to me was my 27year old son; it was as though he was the parent and I was the child. He was just gorgeous, talked a lot of sense to me, and made me feel better; and also very proud of what a beautiful young man he is. Actually, I hadn't planned on writing a long post, that all just came out!

Take care ladies,

Bella xxx
Bella314
Member
11 years ago
Ruth, you are certainly being put through the hoops. I hope your test results are all good.

I had a bit of meltdown earlier in the week, just very teary etc; and then they rescheduled my laprascopy. I totally lost it. I was told they found cancer in my ovary in early November - as a result of elective surgery to have them removed. Things just seem to be dragging on, and I cant start chemo until the results of the laprascopy are in; and I have healed up from that. At this stage I'm scheduled for next Wednesday, hope I don't get bumped again. Apart from the stress, there is also the question of travel/accommodation/husband having to take time off work/getting the dog boarded etc. I know I can apply for IPTAAS, but that takes ages to come through. The hostel accommodation at the hospital which was available has gone, so now we have to book a motel; the friends who were going to mind our dog are going away, so we have to pay to have her boarded; it just goes on. I know there are people much worse off than me, but I think the stress is getting to me. Funnily enough, the person who talked the most sense to me was my 27year old son; it was as though he was the parent and I was the child. He was just gorgeous, talked a lot of sense to me, and made me feel better; and also very proud of what a beautiful young man he is. Actually, I hadn't planned on writing a long post, that all just came out!

Take care ladies,

Bella xxx
Bella314
Member
11 years ago
Ruth, you are certainly being put through the hoops. I hope your test results are all good.

I had a bit of meltdown earlier in the week, just very teary etc; and then they rescheduled my laprascopy. I totally lost it. I was told they found cancer in my ovary in early November - as a result of elective surgery to have them removed. Things just seem to be dragging on, and I cant start chemo until the results of the laprascopy are in; and I have healed up from that. At this stage I'm scheduled for next Wednesday, hope I don't get bumped again. Apart from the stress, there is also the question of travel/accommodation/husband having to take time off work/getting the dog boarded etc. I know I can apply for IPTAAS, but that takes ages to come through. The hostel accommodation at the hospital which was available has gone, so now we have to book a motel; the friends who were going to mind our dog are going away, so we have to pay to have her boarded; it just goes on. I know there are people much worse off than me, but I think the stress is getting to me. Funnily enough, the person who talked the most sense to me was my 27year old son; it was as though he was the parent and I was the child. He was just gorgeous, talked a lot of sense to me, and made me feel better; and also very proud of what a beautiful young man he is. Actually, I hadn't planned on writing a long post, that all just came out!

Take care ladies,

Bella xxx
finita
Member
11 years ago
Hi Ruth,

you poor darling, there is just never a dull moment with you , and as it is , one still has to be thankful for the treatments!

I hope and pray that all will go well. Please let us know when you get your kidneys Mag scan and the removal of the polyp results.

In the meantime enjoy life and living because it is beautiful.

Goodluck

with all my love

Finita xxxxxxxxxxxxxx
shortlionruth
Member
11 years ago
Hello Ladies,

As well as seeing a Urologist for my Kidneys, I also had to see a Gastreonterologist this week. I had a colonoscopy in December as I have Lynch Syndrome. I had a polyp removed but they couldn't get the scope up high so I had to have a CT Colonoscopy. This resulted in me having another polyp which means that the specialist has to perform another Colonoscopy in a few weeks time. Talk about getting cleaned out!! I also have to have a Mag scan for my Kidneys next Week I will be so happy when I can go a Week without having to have something done but I should be glad that I am able to have this treatment.
KathleenT
Member
11 years ago
Dear Bella Well, you weren't waffling at all. I think all you said is valid and possibly quite right in some instances. I Like your idea of suggesting gently to her how she makes me feel, but I d by think it will do anything. She just at wants to be distant, & she clearly enjoys calling our situation "estranged", even though she is the one who keeps her distance and is never in touch unless it's totally necessary. Thanks so much for your insights-they've helped me a lot. Love from Kathleen xxxxx
KathleenT
Member
11 years ago
Thanks Ruth. Yes, it probably is, thought I veryrarely get the chance to talk to her-she avoids me mostly. I think you're right-she doesn't know how to deal with it. Your situation sounds difficult! Thinking of you xxxxx
shortlionruth
Member
11 years ago
Hi Kathleen. I understand how it must feel for you, My Siblings don't talk to me because I left the Religion I was brought up and I find it very hurtful and unloving. It sounds as though she doesn't want to know about what you are going through and doesn't know how to deal with it. It's probably better to try and act as if there isn't a problem and see what happens. My sympathy is for you XXX
shortlionruth
Member
11 years ago
Hi Kathleen. I understand how it must feel for you, My Siblings don't talk to me because I left the Religion I was brought up and I find it very hurtful and unloving. It sounds as though she doesn't want to know about what you are going through and doesn't know how to deal with it. It's probably better to try and act as if there isn't a problem and see what happens. My sympathy is for you XXX
KathleenT
Member
11 years ago
Hi all Putting a new topic out there, & would like your comments if you've experienced similar. My youngest sister had breast implant augmentation surgery for aesthetic reasons. Later I was diagnosed with breast cancer. She very rarely gets in touch. Granted, we don't agree on much, but I feel sad that she now calls us "estranged". Remembering printed information I received about some people, including family, not being able to deal with us having cancer, it may be guilt, fear or resentment, or even need all of the above. She seems to have the need to copy things I say, for oneupmanship,or whatever, and it saddens and frustrates me. Does anyone else have this trouble with family members or close fronded? If so, how do you deal with it? Actually, when we are together, outsiders wouldn't know. She can be very thoughtful and understanding at times. I wonder whether there might be a personality disorder there. Love to hear your thoughts. Live and hugs to all Kathleen xxxxx