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pinklady57
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13 years ago

After breast cancer and menapause

Hi, I would like to talk to anyone who has had problems with sex after breast cancer and menapause. I was diagnosed at 42 and at 47 and went through early menapause. I would like to hear from other ladies who have gone through similar and discuss if they have found any products that may have helped.

 

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    pinklady57
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    13 years ago

    Thanks for your feedback I'll try the sites you suggested. Hopefully I'll find something that works.

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    pinklady57
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    13 years ago

    I know what you mean!!!!   I was 42 and my kids had just left home and we thought yippee we can finally have privacy. BUT life can be cruel. I'm hoping someone may have a solution.

    My doctor suggested ovestin cream but as the cancer cells fed on eostrogen I was reluctant. Unless I have more info as to if it can help or deter I'll keep looking.

     

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    Leonie_Moore
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    13 years ago

    Hi Pinklady57.  I too am 57 and with a "new" hubby.  We have only been married for 5.7 years (15 years together) so intimacy is still very important to us.  We have loads of laughs nowadays and the spontaneity (sorry about the spelling) gets interrupted by the need for all the "extras".  We have learnt to accept the new situation and be grateful for "whatever" we can do. I love humour and intimacy now is definately humourous!!  I hope you too will be able to achieve this. XLeonie

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    Leonie_Moore
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    13 years ago

    Hi Pinklady57.  I too am 57 and with a "new" hubby.  We have only been married for 5.7 years (15 years together) so intimacy is still very important to us.  We have loads of laughs nowadays and the spontaneity (sorry about the spelling) gets interrupted by the need for all the "extras".  We have learnt to accept the new situation and be grateful for "whatever" we can do. I love humour and intimacy now is definately humourous!!  I hope you too will be able to achieve this. XLeonie

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    Kerry23
    Member
    13 years ago

    Hello ladies.....yep where did it go & when it does surface - gritted teeth is not the answer. lol.

    I have found the lubricants dont stop the stinging sensation afterwards and "touch wood" I havent bled yet but damn near close.

    Tried Replens but it just runs down my legs...doesnt stay where it is suppose to.

    The trails of being a woman...oh boy if I had 3 wishes MALES would be in serious trouble...hehehehe

     

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    adean
    Member
    13 years ago
    Well what do you do when you've tried all the movies and gadjets? And still nothing! We actually end up laughing, and that's a killer. And to top it of the aching joints and I've been getting leg cramps, poor hubby thought the yelling was pleasure, but actually pain. Oh we'll girls back to the drawing board. Love to you all adean
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    Mich_x
    Member
    13 years ago
    Hey Pink LadyI am so glad someone has brought this subject to the surface as I am a bit shy in coming forward regarding this topic and my husband would be horrified that I was discussing it openly on the net but I believe this is the best place for this discussion and hopefully everyone can be open about it.I was diagnosed when I was 55 nearly 56 and I am now 57.  My libido is non existent, full stop.  My poor darling husband has the patience of a saint.  They talk about dryness but are they talking about inside or outside or both?  My husband works away for 4 weeks at a time and is only home for a short time and for him it is extremely important that we are intimate while he is home.  I have also found I have had bleeding.  I have not had a period since I had a hysterectomy 25+ years ago so you can imagine how frightening that was for him let alone me.I have an appointment with a Womens Health Centre at one of the big hospitals in Perth next Wednesday where Ihope to speak with the Clinical Nurse/Breast Nurse/Clinical Sexologist who also deals in menopausal issues  of which I am looking forward to hopefully getting some help with these and other issues.  I have been to see them before and have been given the names of a books they suggested we read which I have not got around to doing yet but plan to do so now that I am feeling well enough to be concerned about this particular issue for both my hubby and me.If there are any questions you would like asked when I see the practitioner next week.BCNA has a book called living with breast cancer and sexual wellbeing.  There is also a book called Sex Matter for Weomen. Good Loving Great Sex.  Where did my Libido Go?  Sexual Health for Women.Hopefully between us we can get some answers and some help.Lots of love, Mich xoxoxo