Trying to cope day to day
the past few weeks have been a true roller coaster for me. I have found in the past few days, my emotions have hit a low with crying, a sense of anger at the unknown of what lays ahead and last night...
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Hi Lois,
Just to let you know what you are feeling is normal, we have all been there. As mentioned above it does get better once surgery and treatment starts. Cry when you need to.
I use to cry myself to sleep, or fall asleep and wake up, in the middle of the night with the darkest thoughts. I remember feeling I just want this shit out of me..... breath, one day at a time.
Its ok to have down days but you need to pick yourself up again and kick this disease to the curb, you can do this........
There are people on this forum who have beaten this and you can to.
I did a meditation and mindfulness course which help me get through, to learn to be in the moment. Also I spoke with my GP and was recommended a sleeping tablet, which I took especially in the early stages.
I found with a good night sleep I was able to function and deal with things better.
Stay positive, be around positive people, take this time to do some cooking and freeze some meals for when you start treatment.
Take control of what you can and of what you can’t.
Clean out cupboards that are annoying you, spring clean, keep busy.
Just to let you know what you are feeling is normal, we have all been there. As mentioned above it does get better once surgery and treatment starts. Cry when you need to.
I use to cry myself to sleep, or fall asleep and wake up, in the middle of the night with the darkest thoughts. I remember feeling I just want this shit out of me..... breath, one day at a time.
Its ok to have down days but you need to pick yourself up again and kick this disease to the curb, you can do this........
There are people on this forum who have beaten this and you can to.
I did a meditation and mindfulness course which help me get through, to learn to be in the moment. Also I spoke with my GP and was recommended a sleeping tablet, which I took especially in the early stages.
I found with a good night sleep I was able to function and deal with things better.
Stay positive, be around positive people, take this time to do some cooking and freeze some meals for when you start treatment.
Take control of what you can and of what you can’t.
Clean out cupboards that are annoying you, spring clean, keep busy.
It’s a bit hard to get out and about due the the pandemic at the moment.
Friends and relatives don’t understand, no one does unless they have been there themselves, that’s why we are all here to help,you through this.
I had one dear friend who I knew I could tell, her anything as I knew no mater what I said she would always find a positive in the negative , and keep me on track, and that’s what I needed, a good kick up the bum when I allowed negativity to creep in. Facebook and messenger was my lifeline.
If you have a friend or someone you know that has the ability to keep you staying positive through this roller coaster ride and they are happy to help, take up the offer.
As for people suddenly dropping off the radar all of a sudden, quite often it’s because they don’t know how to respond or deal with it themselves. I know how you feel as I thought the same.
If someone offers to do something for you, cooking, cleaning, shopping etc let them as that’s how they deal with it and that’s there way of helping as they feel helpless.
we are all here to help you through this .
I was diagnosed in October 2018, all surgery and treatment finished in October 2019, and I have come out the other side, had first yearly mammogram ALL CLEAR.
Friends and relatives don’t understand, no one does unless they have been there themselves, that’s why we are all here to help,you through this.
I had one dear friend who I knew I could tell, her anything as I knew no mater what I said she would always find a positive in the negative , and keep me on track, and that’s what I needed, a good kick up the bum when I allowed negativity to creep in. Facebook and messenger was my lifeline.
If you have a friend or someone you know that has the ability to keep you staying positive through this roller coaster ride and they are happy to help, take up the offer.
As for people suddenly dropping off the radar all of a sudden, quite often it’s because they don’t know how to respond or deal with it themselves. I know how you feel as I thought the same.
If someone offers to do something for you, cooking, cleaning, shopping etc let them as that’s how they deal with it and that’s there way of helping as they feel helpless.
we are all here to help you through this .
I was diagnosed in October 2018, all surgery and treatment finished in October 2019, and I have come out the other side, had first yearly mammogram ALL CLEAR.
YOU CAN DO THIS, don’t ever doubt that......Stay positive.........Laugh, sing, dance......keep active.....
Sending hugs xx
Sending hugs xx