Golly Gosh, Chestnut, you've been thru the ringer already :(
BCNA has 2 x private groups for Reconstruction and those choosing No Reconstruction. By joining both these groups, you will be able to chat with other women who went thru the same decision making that you are now going thru. Click on each link & 'ask to join'. I believe there may also be 'before' and 'after' pics too xx
No Reconstruction:
Group: Flat Chat - no breast reconstruction | BCNA Online NetworkGroup: Flat Chat - no breast reconstruction | BCNA Online Network
Reconstruction:
Group: Choosing breast reconstruction | BCNA Online Network
You could also have a chat with the Mods on the Help Line too on 1800 500 258 (Mon-Fri, 9-5)
Take care & all the best xx