I was quite upset when the Geriatric Specialist raised the issue with me last week - I'd never ever thought that I would 'go' before my hubby ...... but accidents can happen - so we now have to cover all the bases. I am just hoping that I go 'after' him, so that I can hopefully control what is going on up til then. BUT, we have to be totally honest about it - I 'could go' before him, but I hope not.
Then, to top it off - we also saw his diagnostic specialist (who diagnosed him with the Stomach Cancer in 2010 after he lost a heap of weight & wasn't interested in eating .....) as hubby had started losing weight again & was asking for smaller 'softer' meals (same as in 2010!) after his rib injury in March when I was having Rads at Port Macquarie. I was a bit concerned that the cancer may have returned (or another one) ...and the specialist (whilst agreeing that wive's intuition is worthy of investigating ......) spelled out in no uncertain terms that if the cancer HAD returned ANYWHERE - there would be no surgery, no chemo - he would be 'maintained and made comfortable' ...... so a double whammy over the last week! I was a tad upset there too!! :( (I AM a bit of a sook tho - I can cry at the drop of a hat! I still cry at a sad movie!)
I am a little less emotional right now - but I still need to approach our buddies with a plan, should I NOT be here, longterm!!
We are looking at downsizing our house, to a smaller 3 bed house with no steps (we currently have a 5 bedroom, 3 bathroom, 2 storey house) .... but whilst I am on the early stages of tablets, I don't want to start disposing of stuff just yet - tho I realise I seriously NEED TO! :( We hope to also upsize our campervan (currently a 20 year old VW Transporter) for a more comfy ride ..... but that will only happen after we downsize the house & depends on the $$ left over!
So, lots of things to think about ...... That's a bugger, @Zoffiel - I hope you can come to some arrangement that you are happy with! Sadly - one of the other alternatives is the Public Trustee - but they charge BIGTIME by the hour & often the estate/funds can be worn down by extended 'discussions' .... as happened with a buddy's Mum who took that route. They charged SO MUCH that her estate ended up being emptied, with none of her assets going to her intended beneficiaries - and she had an estate of $1 Million plus! I believe it went to court but the funds were not reinstated, even tho it was believed the estate had been MILKED! So - SERIOUSLY RETHINK about the Public Trustee looking after your affairs!! :(
@"Janet A" - I don't know if it has been raised before on here - maybe it needs a specific post for everyone? Everyone needs to rethink their will/Advanced Care stuff every 5 years or so - as people die, circumstances change, names & addresses of beneficiaries may change - but especially US - those without kids.
@Sister - are you her 'carer' or Enduring Power of Attorney person? My brother is mine - so I reminded him of that yesterday, as he is in Sydney - as it was 10 years ago that we set it up!!
