Hi, I have been diagnosed with DCIS for a couple of weeks now but not sure if I am okay or not. A bit confusing I know. When I was told which was over the phone I just said "ok" dr said "no,it's not ok" I said "yes it is I will be fine" I feel I am not sick enough or not important enough to have people worried about me. I know that I am extremely fortunate to have early stage breast cancer and can't fathom what the the poor women go through that get a bad diagnosis. To be honest when I tell someone whats wrong I say that I had a mammogram and the results came back bad. I haven't even been able to say "I have breast cancer" Am I having a normal reaction. I don't know how to feel. I feel natural by being positive about it but if you ask people that know me they will tell you that I am one of the most negative people they know. I always find something bad that might happen about everything in life. Which is why I think they are all waiting for me to be sad or angry.

Hi marnz, you are normal for you! You are definitely important to have people worry about you. Don't compare your experience with others it is yours. It is a crappy time to have a diagnosis ( it is 10 years ago at this time for me) and all diagnosis of cancer are horrid. You need to have a good health care team looking after you. Do have you a good gp? Or is there a breast care nurse you can talk too? Depending on where you live ... Take care be happy be sad be cross but enjoy each day for what it is. Looks like you have a great family hugs jo

Hi Marnz Firstly, you are important to enough to care about!!!! I too was diagnosed at this time of year 5 years ago and it a crappy time and even thinking back it feels like it happened to someone else, cause i had a picture in my head who breast cancer happened to and it certainly wasnt to women like me!! Do you havee a treatment plan yet? I think once you have that in place things seems clearer. Being DCIS, you dont have to have chemo do you? Anyway, great that you have found us (sorry you had to), its a great place to vent to others that had tread the same path:( Tanya xx

Thanks ladies. You are all wonderful. Xxxx

Hi Marnz, I was diagnosed and operated on twice within 2 weeks of diagnosis. It was a blessing in disguise as I didn't have time to react. It mostly feels like it is happening to someone else, but then occasionally reality smacks me in the face and I break down. I find a positive attitude helps but don't feel like you have to be like that all the time. How you feel is how you feel. There is a lot of support around, you will find. I have met some amazing doctors and nurses, hopefully you will too. And of course everyone on this network! Good luck. V

Thanks V. Wow they moved very quickly in your case. It does feel like its happening to someone else, even my friends agree that it doesnt feel real. hehe Thanks for your advice. Xx

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Marnz
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13 years ago
Thanks Leanne. I feel exactly like you are saying in regard to guilt. But I am learning that everyone feels and handles BC differently. And i have learnt that i will deal with all of my emotions as they come. Thank you so much Leanne and all the other ladies for commenting it really has helped sooooo much. It makes me ready that you are ALL so great. Xxxxx
LeanneI
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13 years ago
Just looked back at my post and realised that a sentence was missing a word - usually doesn't matter but this one I think does :-) So as my post said -

"I nearly felt guilty when people would ask "what treatment do you need" and I would respond with "no nothing more" - they would look at me as if not having chemo meant that it must have been not significant - as if having both breasts REMOVED is not enough "treatment"!"

We all know that treatment for so many is so different and that each brings with it it's own ups, downs, side effects etc etc. I feel blessed that I did not have to have chemo or ongoing drugs just I am sure that some would say they are blessed that they didn't have 6 surgeries in 11 months.

As al I always say, the paths are all different and our journey in travelling them form our own individual stories.
Leanne xx

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