@SamL890
A cancer diagnosis is always a shock, no matter how much we know about incidence etc. Getting to grips with it is difficult and being a planner, normally a help in most crises, doesn’t work so well. Things can unfold quickly or slowly but can change. The part of treatment you fear most can work out quite easily and something unanticipated flattens you temporarily. The advice to take one day, one step at a time is hard to accept but it’s practical. Deal with what’s on your plate today, don’t anticipate tomorrow. And look after yourself - your well-being and capacity to cope are hugely important to you but will also assist your son and husband. A counsellor to assist you at this time may be very helpful. Many capable, independent people find the advice of a disinterested but experienced and understanding other helps the mind and emotions while your medical team deal with the body. Your GP or other medico should be able to advise. Best wishes.
