Hi @SuzyG - no need to ever apologise for feeling sorry for yourself.
Everyone who has been through this knows it is a case of "baby steps" and willing ourselves to get over the next hurdle. It is about ticking off the treatment/surgery items on your bc cancer list.
I totally get where you are coming from - I had a lumpectomy in 2003 and when I went back to see my surgeon there weren't clear margins so I had to have a partial mastectomy with auxilliary node clearance.
It can be so overwhelming when you feel like this is never going to end and that 2017 was really going to be the beginning of a new year - emotionally and from a cancer perspective.
Take time to process all of it - cry, scream, yell, vent all you need.
As difficult as it is, be Scarlett O'Hara and think about your surgery on the 4th January. For now, focus on the festive season with your family and friends.
Merry Christmas and best wishes to you xxx