Very confused

If you haven't already been given contact details for a BCN at your treatment  clinic, You don't need a referal to speak to a mcgrath breast care nurse. You can find your local one  and the contact details on the website. They also have nurses on the McGrath  help line.  ( Also BCNA and Cancer council have free helplines too).

 I hope next appointment you can take a friend and list of questions, it is really hard. You can also ask permission to record it.

there are so many chemos it is bizzare, differnt doses and combos, it will be tailored to your pathology , age, history etc. So trust  the doctor he is trying to give you the best outcome, and will monitor it, and things can change with chemo plans, so don't be surprised if that happens.

Re work . Its up to you what you want to tell or not. Have a think who needs to know. Some people are fine and can work through, others need time off for the chemo and somethimes day 3 is worse than day 1 or two, but everyones body and treatment is different.

I was told the  chemo  i had would definately make hair fall out, so BCNA had good advice to cut shorter  a few weeks before , and order a synthetic wig in advance,  so I had the colur highlights, fitting and style kind same as it was  was all ready fo rwhen it was time to do the head shave after second chemo. The chemo nurses gave me sheets with info and side effects  and go through it all with you. Its hard, but you want to have no regrets of trying to do whatever you can to kill  it and slow it down. Good luck hun.