This ER+ cancer must be difficult to deal with. My husband's collegues young wife who is ER+ had the same issues of side effects with Tamoxifen, and made similar choices. She said it's easy to hate a treatment when it has side effects that make you wretched. She felt she had a choice between a present actual discomfort and a possible life-threatening event that might never happen. And it was hard to put up with feeling rotten because she didn't really realise that she could be risking her life. She is now having to deal with metastases and wishing she'd got more information and made different choices..
I have also a friend who had a local recurrence 6 years ago that was ER+ and HER2+ . She was treated with surgery, chemo and then tamaxofen for 6 years. In July last year her oncologist told her she could stop taking tamaxofen now if she wanted, since she had had no evidence of disease for 6 years and was getting some uncomfortable side-effects. It turned out that she still had those stem-cell-like cancer cells from the tumour in her bloodstream, and they could not establish metastases while the taxamofen was keeping the estrogen levels in her body down. Once she stopped taking it, and her estrogen levels went up again, the metastatic tumours established and blossomed-(very quickly because of her HER2+ status and the fact that they had never been treated with herceptin-type targetted therapy.) Three months later she got a really nasty cough and was weak and unwell but her GP did not think it would be anything to do with the cancer. A couple of months after that, she had a scan that showed up a dozen golfball-sized metastatic tumors in her liver and lungs, grown from those stem-cell-like cancer cells once they got the hormone environment they liked. Luckily her oncologist got her straight onto paclitaxel and herceptin and AI's, and after 8 months they had finally vanished again. But that was a real eyeopener.
It is hard making decisions when we have no idea what may lie ahead.
best wishes