We do have to work through things before we are ready to accept them sometimes and this whole process can feel so rushed and so pressured at first. I am glad that you have been able to process the information and come to terms with it all. It is good to understand why you need particular treatments and I think it helped me to know what I was achieving by having chemo etc.
I started losing my hair 14 days after my first chemo. I had it cut into a short style before chemo started and then my husband shaved it for me when it started to make a mess. I felt this was easier emotionally than watching it come out by the handful. It also eased the soreness through less pulling on the scalp when I slept etc. Lots of women find it gives them a sense of control to make the decision to shave. A lot less mess too!
I had little hats and pre-tied scarves ready to wear. (i got mine from headcovers.com and pink sisters on line) I also had a wig which I wore for special occasions but found it uncomfortable to wear for long. If you have an opportunity to go to a Look Good Feel Better workshop they give you terrific ideas of headwear and we even got a couple of free cotton caps which were great to wear to bed (soft and comfortable).
Hope things continue ok for you. Take care. Deanne xxx