Hi Linda
i can empathise with your feelings, I am 40 and have an 8 year old and a 6 1/2 month old. I found a lump end of 2013 but was told it was a fibroid growth. I had it checked again six months later to be told yet again there was nothing to worry about. I then became pregnant and it wasn't until finishing breastfeeding in February this year I noticed it was definitely larger and "angrier" feeling. Visit to the GP, one ultrasound, specialist surgeon referral and some blood work later I have BC and four lumps and into the lymph nodes in my armpit. Such a whirlwind and it sounds much like yourself and feeling your whole world has been tipped upside down very quickly.
I am coming up to my third round of FEC (I am having six months of chemo followed by surgery and then radiation therapy), which makes me sick for at least four days each time although hopefully they will now adjust my meds! I also now have a wig (personally I found shaving my head very difficult and bawled my eyes out), which I find hard as its nothing like my own hair and I am still adjusting to wearing it but like you could not stand the whole turban/headscarf idea (not seeing any that worked for me personally). I wear a lot of hats and lucky it's winter so beanies are a saviour!
I haven't been able to go back to work as I'm an EA and a week out of three wouldn't work in my role sadly so I can relate to the financial strain.
I hope you are doing okay and managing with everything. Happy to lend an ear if you need to chat :)
Marney