Hi Jaime
Wow, I think you're amazing having 4 small children & going through all of the treatment needed for IBC. I am almost 4 years post diagnosis & my surgeon was pleased that I decided to go for a double mastectomy due to the risk of my cancer returning in the other side.
I decided not to have reconstruction as I wanted any return of the cancer to be easily detected. I had large breasts originally & I was happy to become flat chested. I was lucky also that my husband was supportive of me whatever my decision. I have a pair of prosthesis I slot into my mastectomy bras when I want to look womanly or fill out certain clothing but most of the time, I don't wear them. It is liberating to just wear a singlet top & not have to worry about a bra. I don't have the expense of mammograms either. Hope this helps & best of luck with the remainder of your treatment.