Hi Kazza,
I'm sorry to hear that your infection is still causing you grief and hope you manage to get past this soon. I think you are doing the right thing by talking to the head of oncology to get a second opinion on when or if to move forward with chemo. It's really hard to know what is best but all you can do is weigh up the advice from your medical team based on what's reality for you right now and possible future benefit. Maybe your breast care nurse might be able to help guide you through the decision making process, or just act as a sounding board for you to explore the possibility of not going through chemo and how this might feel for you?
Here's hoping you can get some clarity around all of this soon. Best wishes, Jane xx