Hi Mazoz - am sure you feel like you have been hit with a sledgehammer after all this time. I was first diagnosed in 2003 - lumpectomy w/chemo & radiotherapy. In 2007 I had a recurrence in the same breast - mastectomy this time. Went on with a drain & found that a body pillow - one similar marketed to pregnant women - worked well. Like a giant pillow to cuddle and support. As Lipsy said - first 6 weeks are a hurdle. Sleep when you can & if that eludes you then rest & don't stress about not sleeping - when some demons might creep in. Last year - 8 years cancer free I was diagnosed with secondary bone mets. I can totally understand your sheer shock. As with everyone here I too wish you the very best.