Hi Mazoz, I am so sorry to hear of your diagnoses. It must have been a terrible shock after 15 years, my thoughts are with you. I had a single mastectomy (with immediate implant) and one of the things I found difficult to deal with was coming home with a drain still in place. I carried it around in a carry bag from the hospital but showering was awkward. My husband came up with the idea of hooking a stretched coat hanger over the shower and hanging the drainage bag from it. He helped me wash but it meant I was hands free (to hold onto the walls!!) and the drain bag was supported and not pulling on me.
Sleeping on my back was uncomfortable until I got used to it but it helped to have plenty of soft pillows under my head and around my shoulders. Once I ventured onto my side, hugging a pillow took a lot of pressure from my underarm and breast.
Many of my tops were tight due to swelling so in hindsight I should have gone up a size. Someone gave me the tip to take button up PJ tops to hospital which was a godsend! It was easier for access to the drains and dressings (I had a couple of little bleeds) and a lot less painful to show doctors my breast.
I hope the next couple of weeks goes quickly for you. Let us know when you have a surgery date booked. We are all here to listen and help.
take care, Jane xx