Welcome to the place to go for advice and unloading of frustration.
I completely understand about how you feel re chemo, although my children are not young. I imagine having little ones makes it all the more difficult. I hope your hubby and others give you good support. Have you told him how you feel about needing space at tat time? They are probably too scared to let you out of their sight.
Have you ordered the my journey kit from this site? It has loads of really helpful information for you and for your friends and family.
Take care, Louie