Stage 2 breast cancer

Di, As Nonie was classed as low risk for B.C.  by the  Australian cancer survey. i have been looking at causes. One thing that keeps popping up is the use of anti-perspirant deodrants...Looking at the U.S, research they cannot say if this is a cause or not. Do you know of any other research in this area ? I am concerned for the children..

David

Thank you, Finally looks like i will have some closure..money hopefully will be coming from super/insurance and we can arrange Nonies plague in the Australiana garden at Northern Suburbrs crematorium..will help myself and the children a lot.

I will go to the web site and get some bands..one small thing i can do.

Do take care , your friend David

Hi David -- just wanted to let you know that the new wristbands are in. If you want to, you can order them through the online shop, here: http://www.bcna.org.au/store/Merchandise.

Di

Di,  I looked at those sites and i do not feel it appropriate that i should blog with partners whose wives are still fighting the fight.. I do not want them communicating back ' i just talked with a guy that lost his wife suddenly' The others seem preoccupied with being carers..sure i was a carer but until June our lives were  pretty much normal..We made it that way ! Today in the mail i received Nonie's statements from HCF they paid $14,000 dollars for the 20 days she was in two private hospitals ( i stll had to pay  $1,000) i say this , for you to tell people how IMPORTANT it is to have private hospital insurance. I will call you

with thoughts David

Hi David, we always love feedback, so you're very welcome to send yours. You can phone or send an email, either is fine -- my contact details are on my profile (just click my user name).

Re: the pink wristbands, we normally do have them for purchase through the online store but we've just recently run out of stock due to high demand.   I'm not sure where else you can get them, but the team tells me they're expecting more in the next couple of weeks, if that helps.

Hi David,

There is a place in New South Wales called Mediband.  They have different types of bands available for all conditions and you can create your own.  They are also connected with a company called Hand band which can customise the type of band you are after.  These are the silicone ones.

Hope this helps.

Again, I am sorry for your loss and please accept my deepest sympathy.

Tracey xx

Hi Di, Thank you for your kind words ( i am saying this a lot lately). Coming from  an I.T background, now working in a care facility i find the website a little difficult  to navigate it should be more user friendly ( no reflection on you but as Bill Gates said computers are made too  complicated.) I will look at the male websites,and certainly help anyone who contacts me though most males i have known,  pretend that it (B.C) does not exist or will get bettter,  sadly a lot of women also have this opinion.

One area i will cover though,  is the problems experienced afterwards. Dealing with govt.depts.business etc especially in my case where my darling Nonie passed suddenly and everything was in her name. The roadblocks (especially re insurance and super) are unbelievable. These problems on top of the sorrow saddness and grief make it so much harder. I 'll give you a call soon.

Regards David

P.S. Do you know where i can buy a pink wristband ? The cancer stores dont sell them and i dont see them in the online store..I'dlike to wear one in memory of Nonie.

Tonya, I have had so many replies re my blog i am unsure who i have replied too..Anyway BE positive cherish each other and do not be fazed by anything anywhere anytime. Nonie and i lived by this ..Dont get angry dont get sad do all the things you guys wanted to do together. I think Nonie would be happy i am trying to help others in her circumstances...Dont forget it is so very hard for your husband...sadly one of the last things Nonie said to me was she felt so sorry for me because i was being left alone. Anyway i will ,as a good buddy said to me  David you have  nothing left but to bugger all soldier on.

Respectfuly David 

Leonie, I dont have all the answers but as Nonie would say travel while you are well ( if you want to).

We also had $$ to think of,  she was younger than yourself. I kept working in agreement with her, though her passing was sudden that is one of the hard things and is why i say just organise everything and keep fighting.

As for society stuff them  you do what you and your husband want to do .

In life there is only health and happiness....

I can understand why men have trouble facing this but you would be surprised at the number of women i know who block it out, it  wont happen to me attitude 

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??As an aside Nonie's brother passed in April from cancer..

I believe with a passionate unshakeable conviction that  life is a blessed gift and that when these eyes see more, and this mind thinks no more and these hands now blogging are inert that where i go will be also a blessed gift. My darling also held these convictions.

The reason i say be prepared is some egs.. Most things were in her name as i was always travelling on business. Some people you deal with are wonderful,  some are pure crap. A demanding letter from the Roads and traffic authority for the return of her disabled pass (which she refused to use ) saying other people deserved it not her. A doctors office called yesterday wanting to know when i would pay her outsanding account (they knew she had passed) I hung up on them !

For your partners i am not a wimp yer i went to University but i also played Grade rughby league. If anyone wants to talk especially men contact me .