Hey lovely, I reckon if your dad is up to assisting let him!! It will be fantastic for both of you (this is said obviously not knowing the status of your dad's health etc). I know that your dad won't have the same connection and understanding regarding your emotional attachment to your breasts as your beautiful mum would have, but he is still a big bundle of love and caring. He is probably feeling so very helpless. I know I totally underestimated my brothers anxiety and I knew he cared but when he burst into tears when I got my pathology results back and he had a good sob, I did think that I'm a gender snob and hadn't paid the same regard to how much this had affected him as I had to my mum and sisters. He was just less vocal. :(
As for how dare you be upset - how dare you NOT LET yourself be upset and let it all out of your system!!!! I haven't heard of any bravery awards being handed out for the least amount of tears or anxiety prior to surgery. Go for it. Cry buckets. It does help to de-stress and there is no hard and fast rule that says because you have been down a similar path previously that you are not allowed to feel frightened, unsure, anxious and stressed this time.
But most of all know that we are here for you. You are not alone, we are all just a couple of taps on the computer away. I'm hoping you have a huge supply of green tea at the ready to be sipped whenever necessary. Close your eyes and give yourself a hug. A really really big hug and tell yourself that your hug encompasses all of the love and support that your mum would give and that all of us here are sending you. Xx
