Federica
12 years agoMember
How to tell your family?
This morning I had a super proactive meeting with my GP, in less than an hour I had my blood tests done, chest X-rays booked for this afternoon, referral done for breast surgeon and also referral for genetic testing .
The doctor was saying that given the strong family history of breast cancer it may come back positive and to start thinking about the possibility of double mastectomy. I thought about it, spoken to my husband about it and in my mind there is no doubt that I'm ready for a double mastectomy if needed.
My doctor also told me to keep exercising exactly as I was before the diagnosis and with the same intensity. I need to lose about 10kg and he said to keep up with my healthy eating and exercise for weight loss. And also to think about starting doing Yoga. He says there would be a stressful time coming ahead and Yoga is an excellent outlet for stress. I like his approach very much.
I've spent the day organising medical appointments for next week, trying to organise child care and fitting all the kids activities around it. I have an amazing circle of friends that want to help me, all I need to do is just ask. I feel so blessed to have people like this in my life, especially since I didn't have the courage to tell my family just yet.
They are all in Italy, my mother, step dad and my two brothers with their beautiful families. Mum is not strong emotionally, she went through some big trauma in her life and I know she will be consumed by anxiety and worries, and I am not ready, just yet, to go through this. I'd have to be in a better place emotionally and I need to have more information about my condition, before I could comfort mum.
I was thinking, but I am still trying to get things right in my head, to tell them after I had the operation. I know it sounds wrong, but being so far away there is nothing that they could to help. Mum doesn't speak any English and she won't be able to come here anyway.
How did you tell your families, your parents or your kids?
But, I have to say, I feel very good. My moral is very high and the fact that things are happening is making me feel like we are moving forward.
Hope you are having a great day and thank you for reading this.