Just a bit stressful

dmed
dmed Member Posts: 158 ✭
edited January 2014 in Day to day
Wonder if it's just me or is it that the Xmas and holidays seem to get a bit stressful seems that things get you down at this time of year or is it that this bc journey makes us look differently at things? Seems that people have to cope with more at this time . Maybe I've had too much chocolate and am on a downer lol.. Just thought I would ask and get a few thoughts on how others feel. I've got a visit to radiation dr coming up so suppose all this par for the course. Thanks Deb

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  • mgndam1603
    mgndam1603 Member Posts: 753 ✭
    edited March 2015

    I was diagnosed in November 2012 had my 1st surgery on December 14th and yes Chrsitmas 2012 was stressful, I had a daunting future ahead of me with treamtnets looming and was scared it may be my last christmas. I asked my husband to take loads of photos of me with the family and I put myself under pressure.

    Christmas 2013 was fantastic,  3 surgeries done, chemo done, radiation done in full remission from Breast and Renal cancer, I celebrated and felt no stress, in fact I missed a couple of doctor appointments as I just plain fogot!

    So I suppose the answer is it depends on where exactly you are at on your journey and how much pressure you put on yourslef.

    Sending you hugs

    Donna

  • TonyaM
    TonyaM Member Posts: 2,836 ✭
    edited March 2015

    Yes,my Christmas was abit stressful and I wasn't looking forward to it.My hubby thinks I'm turning into ba humbug Scrooge! My mum is deteriorating with liver cancer and my brotherinlaw found out just before xmas that his brain cancer is returning so yeh,bit of a downer around here.Some years are better/worse than others at Christmas. Mich,I hope you are ok after surgery.Is it on the alien boob?Your poor hubby getting redundancy right on Christmas.      Big hugs  Tonya xx

  • Hazel M
    Hazel M Member Posts: 708 ✭
    edited March 2015

    Before I was diagnosed with BC, I always found Christmas stressful. I suffer with depression and anxiety and my GP says it's one of the hardest times of year for some people. Just too stressful. This year I chilled out and let family take the reins for me and I did manage to enjoy the day itself. I sometimes wonder if it's also because families who don't see eye to eye feel obligated to get together and it's all a bit tense. So comercialised too, cheers,

    Hazel xx

  • Hazel M
    Hazel M Member Posts: 708 ✭
    edited March 2015

    Before I was diagnosed with BC, I always found Christmas stressful. I suffer with depression and anxiety and my GP says it's one of the hardest times of year for some people. Just too stressful. This year I chilled out and let family take the reins for me and I did manage to enjoy the day itself. I sometimes wonder if it's also because families who don't see eye to eye feel obligated to get together and it's all a bit tense. So comercialised too, cheers,

    Hazel xx

  • dmed
    dmed Member Posts: 158 ✭
    edited March 2015
    Glad for the replies great to know your not alone . Sorry Mich about your husband job and Tonya must be hard dealing with your relatives. Think next year will plan better so as not to be tired and stress the little things. So glad to be able to vent on here thanks Deb love to you all.
  • Janey235
    Janey235 Member Posts: 1,206 ✭
    edited March 2015
    Love the quote Mich :)
    Janey xxx
  • Mich x
    Mich x Member Posts: 1,530 ✭
    edited March 2015

    Luv your new pic my luvly Janey 235 :-)

    Hope you are doing well.

    Luvn hugs, Mich xoxoxooxox

  • Janey235
    Janey235 Member Posts: 1,206 ✭
    edited March 2015
    The lead up to Christmas was a bit stressful for me as it was this time I was diagnosed (20th Dec 2012). This Christmas brought memories of the last and I had mixed emotions on the day. Sadness at the memory and what heartache it caused my family and happiness that it was all but over now. So I had times where I'd cry either with grief or happiness. I think too that after going through all our treatments and being thrown into menopause, our hormones are all over the place and it's hard to get our emotions under control. I cry at ads on TV and I cry when I'm happy too. Oh well I just have to get used to being a bit of a sop. :)
    Janey xxx
  • Janey235
    Janey235 Member Posts: 1,206 ✭
    edited March 2015
    The lead up to Christmas was a bit stressful for me as it was this time I was diagnosed (20th Dec 2012). This Christmas brought memories of the last and I had mixed emotions on the day. Sadness at the memory and what heartache it caused my family and happiness that it was all but over now. So I had times where I'd cry either with grief or happiness. I think too that after going through all our treatments and being thrown into menopause, our hormones are all over the place and it's hard to get our emotions under control. I cry at ads on TV and I cry when I'm happy too. Oh well I just have to get used to being a bit of a sop. :)
    Janey xxx
  • mgndam1603
    mgndam1603 Member Posts: 753 ✭
    edited March 2015

    I found that I am now able to talk about some of the times throughout that last year that I just couldn't talk about before and I usually end up in tears, but not sad tears, tears that are cleansing and happy to be alive.

    I too reflected over the differences between christmases but overall I don't think that was stressful more cathatic. What journey we have all been on together, it creates a bond between women that may never have interacted before.

    Donna

     

  • Mich x
    Mich x Member Posts: 1,530 ✭
    edited March 2015

    You are never alone on here Deb.  As I know there is always someone somewhere who is there for you.

    Aren't we the lucky ones.

    Mich xoxoxooxoxox

  • dmed
    dmed Member Posts: 158 ✭
    edited March 2015
    Thanks Mitch find support so great xxxx to you as well.
  • dmed
    dmed Member Posts: 158 ✭
    edited March 2015
    Thanks Mitch find support so great xxxx to you as well.

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