Hi Mel
Congratulations on losing 20kg!!!!!, well done, how did you manage that, I am sure all the pink sisters would love to hear how you managed it.
I am so sorry your hubby wasn't there for you emotionally during your yukky journey, I guess we all have to deal with it the best way we can as it is a very hard thing for all of us to go through. I believe it is hard for us but even harder for our loved ones.
When you say that people are saying you have changed, are they saying you have changed in a good way or a bad way. If it is a good way then that is great and wonderful for you. If it is a bad way, how can that be?? If you have grown from your BC experience and are becoming a stronger person then I can't see how that can be bad. If you are aggressive and selfish and that sort of thing then I can understand how they feel.
What you have been through is a very traumatic experience and it is bound to change us in some way and if you feel good about yourself and are feeling well and strong and happy then I think the other people including your hubby have to adjust with you and it is all a bit of give and take.
I have just finished my BC treatment and I am not sure yet how it has changed me but I know it definitely has. One thing is like you I want to get well, healthy and lose some weight. As far as my personality changes I guess we will have to wait and see but I hope BC makes me a stronger and more compassionate caring person cause I think that will be a good place to start and where I go from there we will see.
I guess your hubby and family have a little bit of adjusting to do like you have had to do ..........throughout your whole journey and I am sure it is an ongoing process these changes in us.
I wish you luck and hope you and your hubby can work through these issues. Keep in touch and I am sure the other girls will have some advice for you, especially the girls further down the track of their journey than me. I just wanted to wish you well.
Mich xoxo