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Brenda5
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9 years ago

Time to admit defeat in the workplace?

Went in to Centrelink today to apply as dad’s carer. The case officer suggested I should register for disability myself and my husband apply as carer for both myself and dad who has bone Mets from prostate cancer. We have been living for 8 years on a line of credit and getting deeper and deeper in debt with no government aid.

This has made me very depressed as until now I considered myself healed from breast cancer and able to function on my own and perhaps get a job soon but as things are, I think I need to accept I will never be the same.

I get lymphedema in my main left arm and should not lift anything heavier than 5kg with it for the rest of my life. I get tired a lot and my energy levels leave me quickly even though I take multivitamins every day. I had a blood test 2 weeks ago, to see if there is any reason for my lethargy but the doctor couldn’t pin point anything.

I get hot flushes all the time while I am on Tamoxifen which I need to take for minimum 2 years. The flushes always hit the lymphedema arm first which is like pins in my skin and work across my chest sometimes down my back as well. My body feels like it is going to internally combust and this happens for 5 to 10 minutes sometimes hourly. I have a flush before I go to bed, and immediately upon waking with a few while I am sleeping which means I have a fan on me at all times and no bedcovers at all. It is very debilitating.

I have also developed a blockage in the back of my left eye which blocks my vision from time to time but which the optometrist specialist can offer no remedy except to observe.

The Tamoxifen also gives me bone pains and I have to really focus and be careful going down stairs as my legs crack and my knees don’t have much flexibility at times.

My mental aptitude also seems to be affected and I have to concentrate hard to remember easy things like my own phone number. I am fine in daily things I have done for decades like cooking the family dinner but anything more difficult like filling in applications is very difficult for me. My husband does most all the house cleaning.

The Centrelink case worker gave me a bunch of forms to fill in and I am supposed to register online as looking for work and then apply for disability. I have not had paid income since before I was married in 1990. I am now 54 years old. I have no idea how to apply online and I just feel like such an absolute failure and burden I break down in private to tears. It’s rare I show it to anyone especially my husband and my doctor as I like to put on a brave front but I am finding it difficult to hide.

Writing used to be my strong suit but nowadays I wonder if I am rabbiting on like a mad woman. I fear I may be becoming one.