Not sure how to react, what to expect...

Hi Laura, so sorry to hear of your diagnosis, especially after having left an abusive relationship. You are a lot stronger than you realise and that will help you to get through this journey. There are a lot of lovely, supportive women on this site who can help you get through this as they understand first hand what it's like to actually have breast cancer and go through the treatments. I am also 34 years old and have had that discussion about fertility before I started my chemo which is something I never thought I would have to face at 34 years old! I am only 5 days into my first chemo treatment so I still have a long road ahead but so far so good.
My surgeon told me a lot of women go through cancer treatment and then go on to have healthy pregnancies so that is still a possibility for you, especially as you are still young and have many fertile years ahead of you. I was also terrified at the possibility of my cancer returning if I was to get pregnant but both my surgeon and oncologist said this is actually quite rare - yes it can happen but it's not common. You could look at getting a second opinion about fertility options as I have found opinions differ a lot between medical professionals. 
There are a few women on this site in the 20's and 30's age group that you may be able to reach out to to as we understand the issues that young women face when diagnosed with breast cancer. However, I have found all the women here to be wonderfully supportive and understanding, regardless of their age. 
Take care xxx
Rochelle 

Hello Fate81,
Very sorry for the reason you've found yourself on this network but I can assure you that you're in good company here.
You are absolutely entitled to feel cheated, worried, uncertain about the future & what's more, it's absolutely normal given everything that's happened in your life so far. 
Keep asking questions here & of your health care team & don't deny yourself time & space to grieve. Most importantly you need to focus on taking care yourself physically & emotionally - however that looks like for you right now. 

Mel xxx

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The idea of not being able to have children hit me really hard too. I went through preservation harvest and when my genetics came back negative opted not to have my ovaries removed. 
There are a lot of things to think on, a lot of chaos to navigate, and we'll be here every step of the way.

Thank you everyone for your support. It's good to know I am not alone and I can share feelings and experiences with people who are going through something similar ❤

Hi Laura,
You poor love-what a horrible time you've had.You are so young to have to face an abusive marriage and then a breast cancer diagnosis. Life can be unfair but you will get through all this and hopefully have good times ahead.Ofcourse you feel cheated and worried about ever having a baby.It's normal so don't feel guilty.All bc treatments are awful so you have every right to have a sook/a whinge/ a vent. We have a lady in our support group who was your age when she got bc.She had to have chemo as well but went onto to have a baby after treatment.That was about 5 yrs ago and she is still ok.Just ask lots of questions and gather all the info you need to make informed decisions.Sending hugs,Tonya xx

Hi Laura. We all grieve with the diagnosis and treatment of breast cancer. The changes of our life. The life we were planning. The change to our bodies. I would say most of us feel cheated in life with what has happened. But eventually, slowly there is hope again. And planning life again. Acknowledge that you have every reason to feel sad. Let the tears flow. Eventually though, life will start to move forward. ..and hopefully for you this will mean finding a new supportive partner and a chance of a family. Hope the rest of your treatment goes well. Take care. Kath x

Hi Laura - welcome ..... but so sorry you have reason to join us and that you have such difficult choices to make.  You are clearly a very strong women given you had the courage to leave your abusive marriage.  You should never feel guilty - how we cope with cancer is such a personal thing and we all just need to do what we can to get through it.   As the other ladies have said, you will always find support and someone to listen here.  Sending you my thoughts and best wishes, Jane x

Just to add to Socoda post you are entitled to get an enhanced primary care  form from your GP or team, which will allow you to see a psychologist free of charge, normally. 

Hi Laura, Congratulations on leaving the abusive relationship, it must have been a very hard decision to make. Also sorry that you've had your diagnosis and ended up joining our site. I just wanted to let you know that the cancer council offer counselling services 131120 might be an idea to call to help with the fertility worries, you have a lot on your plate at the moment and it might help to talk to a counsellor to try and allay your fears. Wishing you all the best. Xx Cath

@fate81 it's never easy welcoming new members to the online network. The members here will be able to provide you with the support you need so please ask as many questions as you need to. Have you received the "My Journey Kit" yet? If there is anything I can help you with please just let me know.