Rant about Hubby
I have to get this off my chest or I might go insane.
I am worried about hubby, I think he might be going insane. I got up this morning for a cuppa with a sore throat and hubby was at the sink but not moving to fill the jug so I picked it up and waited by the sink to fill it. He straightens up and swings the tap over for me and he is cleaning his teeth, in the sink. I asked why are you cleaning your teeth in the kitchen sink? He goes awwwww and stomps off to the bathroom where he finished cleaning his teeth and then had his shower. Now I feel bad for criticizing like I am his mother or something.
He seems to be on some sort of outside the box health kick atm. He picks up my orange or mandarin peels and eats all of them. I've never known anyone to do that before. He doesn't wash them or anything before eating.
He wants me to save him the water from boiled veges and says its lovely, he could drink it all day every day. I googled it and its not very safe and can lead to all sorts of problems. He didn't appreciate me reading it out to him. Again I feel bad.
My sister said the other day gee hubby looks skinny like there is something wrong with him. I feel like its my fault then but hubby refuses to see the doctor or say anything is wrong with him.
He used to be on warfarin and then xalto pills for a clot in his leg but unbeknownst to me, he went off them all by himself weeks ago. I used to ask don't you need to go to the doc for a new pill script? Nope, still got plenty of pills left. Eventually he told me he got sick of taking pills and had been off them for months. Again its like a child hiding things from his mother.
In terms of house maintenance and usual chores he is a model husband, just he has gone a bit quirky lately.
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Hi,
I wouldn't be too worried about drinking the water from the veges. I save mine to make vegetable stock, its just vege flavoured water. I've been craving plain hot water lately, its warm on a cold day and probably quirky too.
I'd make sure I wash any veges before I cook them though, just in case.I'd be having a chat to a doctor and mentioning him going off his pills to find out what the effects would be. I'm assuming you've talked to hubby about it. Has anyone else in the family noticed anything? Can they have a chat to him and see whats going on?
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Hi Brenda,
Don't feel bad - if a wife doesn't notice behavioural changes, who will? He is lucky to have a wife who cares enough to reach out because she is worried.
I agree that your GP should know he has taken himself off medication - especially when a clot was involved. Is it possible for you to have a chat privately and bring up the behavioural issues at the same time? Sometimes catching things early is really beneficial as they can be treated.
Eating mandarin peels is a new one to me - has he been on the internet researching homeopathic treatments/diets? The vegetable water should be harmless. The teeth-brushing at the sink - a little vagueness for sure.
This is a worry for you, so definitely ask advice from a professional just to be sure there is nothing seriously wrong. All the best to you both.
Michelle x
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Good advice from all - I take Xarelto and you are very specifically advised not to just stop - it's one of the potential bad sides of what is otherwise a very effective drug.
Your husband really does need to talk to his doctor - not only about the effects of stopping his medication but why he wants to stop.
I get a bit ropeable about the more irrational "nutritionists" of this world who preach faddy diets and bizarre attributes for otherwise sensible food (activated almonds!). If your husband has been on Warfarin and Xarelto then his doctor is trying to protect him from clots (which lead to strokes), to which his doctor thinks he may be susceptible. You don't prescribe them otherwise. Most of us would like to think that a healthy diet would protect us from illness, but lots of very healthy people (and doctors!) get cancer and other illnesses, so it's not a real answer.
If he has side effects he hates, or just hates taking medication, that's quite understandable but he needs to talk through how to deal with it in a more productive and safer way.
Good luck, looking after our own health is hard enough, looking after a loved one who probably doesn't want to hear the arguments about his new regime is even tougher.
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Hubby and I had a discussion about his going off the Xaralto (probably wrong spelling). He was on Warfarin for a blood clot in his leg for years but blood tests up to every fortnight were getting him down especially when the local Dr here stopped bulk billing and he had to pay $73 just to hear blood test results. He got put on the Xaralto with less blood tests but its expensive and we aren't on a pension.
Hubby said the clot was from an injury years ago when we were digging a gum tree stump out and he got dehydrated and levered the digging bar against his leg, compressing the vein. Not long after that his leg swelled up and it was diagnosed as a blood clot. In years its never completely gone down and hubby thinks its just scar tissue inside and will never completely go no matter how many pills he takes. He is of the opinion that he is just a revenue income for Drs and pharmacies and he is sick of it and went off the pills a little at a time for weeks. His leg has not swelled any bigger and there isn't any pain. He goes on long walks with no ill effects.
Latest odd for a man thing is he takes over my kitchen of a day time and bakes Anzac biscuits for us and the neighbours. They are lovely biscuits but I am packing the weight on eating them! I don't think he is eating them, he snacks on lettuce leaves.
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Hi Brenda,
I don't know the answer re the blood clots, but it sounds like hubby is letting his inner chef loose. Maybe he's been inspired by Masterchef or something. I wonder what would happen if you gave him some recipes and let him loose in the kitchen??
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Sounds like he is overstressed and feels.like he has no control over what is happening. Mine went through a similar stage when I started Chemo and he had to step up as he has always been acting as a spoiled toddler and thia time he had to start pulling hia weight...
Mine also went on a weird hwalth kick mind you his was not halthy and when I could not get through to him I made an appointment for ua both with the GP as we see the same.one and did not tell him he was being seen as well so when he took me and we went in I 'dobbed him in' and told the GP about my concerns and GP could then speak with him properly. He was pissed at me afterwards but he has changed some of those bad food habbits so it did work for us.
I honestly do not see a problem with the veggie water by the way as it is no different from drinking a vegetable soup and would have nutrients that normally water does not have...
Eating citrus peel will make him contipated but that is about it... It would help if he washed them and frankly if they were organic as he would also be eating a fair few pesticides but again chance is it is just a passing stage if he is anxious. Maybe worth while if you wash and dry the fruits when he is not arround so by the time he gets to them they are at least germ free... Also there are lot of vegetable wash type solutions on the market that will remove a fair bit of pesticides as well as germs that you can buy these days. I use one and can send you a link where you can order it if you wish.
I have recently gone 'chemical free' in my household and found a.company that sells not just cleaning cloths that clean everything with just water but also sell enzyme and vegtable based cleaning liquids and among them have this vegetable wash that I just dunk everytjing in when I bring it from the shops, dry then pop i to the dlfridge or fruit basket and it really works... Plus not worried then about eating dirt, mould or pesticides...
More than anything though I think it is worth talking to him and just letting him know you love him and care about him and that you are worried that something is troubling him to see if he will open up. As well as giving him information on options he might have out there in terms of support - as he may not be ready to talk to you yet... Maybe, though, he would be more comfortable talking to the GP or a counsellor.of some sort or even a dietitian at this stage (of he tjinks he is on a health kick - I mean he might be.more open to a dititian than a.social.worker or counsellor or psychologist but if he soeaks to one then if he sees some behaviours need changing then maybe psychologist visit will not be as scary or 'foreign' later on)
Best of luck
Jel.
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