Hi Peta,
My story is pretty much the same as yours (I think by memory you actually messaged me a while ago). Just after I finished my radiation I found out I'm BRCA1 positive. So yes, like you I wish I had a bilateral mastectomy and reconstruction when I first found out but my breast surgeon said it wasn't necessary and performed a lumpectomy. It is constantly on my mind about reacurrance because of the TNBC. I had a hysterectomy about 6 weeks ago and I will have a mastectomy with recon. next year around the Feb/March mark. ( wanted around January but the PS said he's booked until Feb/Mar.)
I'm off to see another plastic surgeon tomorrow (my second PS) but I think my chances of getting in earlier is fading. That's what scares me -the waiting!! This whole process is just scary.
I too want to hear from TNBC ladies who have made it past the 5 year mark.
Peta xx