Elective preventative mastectomy advice?

Firstly I would like to say that I'm so very sorry about the baby you lost. So sad and such a deep mourning for you. On the question of the reluctance of surgeons removing the second breast I can add that I too had to push for both. Even if one just argued the statistics to the 'professionals' they seem reluctant. All the media gumfff quotes that 1 in 7, (it was 1 in 8 five years ago when I was diagnosed) women will get breast cancer at some point in their lives. That's 14.28% of women. They parrot out that we would have no greater chance of cancer in the so called 'healthy' breast than any other woman.....Right...so that is a 14.28% chance of cancer cropping up in the other breast. Chemo and radiation don't give much better statistics for prevention of recurrence, and many are only quoted between 2% and around 6% extra cover from hormone suppression...for up to ten years, often with significant ongoing side effects, such as a previously luscious Garden of Eden being reduced to the Gobi Dessert and worse. But noooo...ohhh you must have this treatment, but you can't have the other potential killer removed, even if only for aesthetics, balance, peace of mind or more. I'd also have to think that if you factored in the question of "Well what in my genetics, or lifestyle may have made me one of those 1 in 7?  Did genetics play a part? Or previous hormone replacement therapy, or the pill, or IVF? Was my weight a factor...built for comfort...not for speed? Was my alcohol consumption a contributing factor? My age?" Perhaps...and if so, then surely the other breast has been exposed to those same 'risk factors' and that figure of 14.28% may in fact be 1 in 6..that is 16.67%......