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mum2jj
12 years agoMember
It sounds like you have your head in the right place. I was so mindful of the kids and the effect on them. My husband was a gem at the time. We slowly fed them the information along the way as each step happened. At the suggestion of my breast care nurse who I rang in a panic at diagnosis. She said tell them whatever you think they can cope with, but do tell them something as kids aren't silly and they overhear conversations and pick up on things. My husband was insistent we use the cancer word as he said they would hear it anyway. We were fortunate as we had friends and acquaintances who had had cancer before and are now well. He used then as an example and luckily the kids have coped well. They were 9 and 11at the time of my first diagnosis. They were a bit shaky at the time of second diagnosis (as was I !!) however fortunately all has been well. I kept to the story that we can cut breast cancer out and that helped them. A wise friend gave me the same advice as you mention, it's all about how you react to it. So glad you have been able to speak with others about their experiences. Nothing like hearing it from the horses mouth.
My cancer was triple negative so not much choice re chemo etc and unfortunately didn't get the hormone treatment option. You may be lucky and not need chemo. I know there are some on this site who have not needed it. That would be great for you in regards to the farm and the fact you have to travel.
Happy Sunday, I'm off to the beach with my son :)
Paula x