It’s hard and it’s not fair. It’s also harder when the day to day takes so
much time and energy that the mental mining that often accompanies a major health or emotional issue (almost inevitable with both I would have thought) is just too hard to contemplate let alone do because it’s exhausting, you don’t know what the ramifications will be and you have RESPONSIBILITIES. All I can suggest is that you are very very kind to yourself. It’s not your fault. You didn’t create those circumstances. If crying for hours helps, then do it and don’t feel bad about it. Most of all, and I do have a slight glimmer of how difficult this may be, can you off load some of those responsibilities, for a while, so you can make time to deal with some of the business which may help to restore a sense of calm, if not optimism? Thinking of you.