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Becher
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13 years ago

Hi! I've got so many questions

Hi everyone,

My name's Cass.  It's with a heavy but hopeful heart that I introduce myself to you today.  My 25 year old sister was diagnosed with breast cancer last week.  Whilst she is dealing with this on all different levels she has asked my Mum and me to help her source some answers to the many, questions we have. It's so great to be able to find a wonderful network such as this where there are so many supportive people.

To give you a little background:  She has one lump in a duct of her right breast and had biopsies and ultrasounds completed last week, which was when the diagnosis was made. I believe they checked the lymph glands at that time and found them clear.  They also found a secondary site of calcium deposits behind the nipple.  They have booked her in for an MRI tomorrow and will have more information after that at her specialist appointment on the 4th Feb.  She's been booked in for surgery on the 8th Feb and has been told Chemo (definitely) and Radio (most likely) will follow. 

She only has a couple of days after her specialist appointment to decide so many things before her surgery at the end of that week.  I'm hoping that you might be able to give us insight and advice or even point us in the right direction to get some advice.

Here goes..... 

Firstly, she has private health insurance but we've heard from a few people that there will still most likely be large out of pocket expenses whereas the public system is great with very little out of pocket expenses.  What are your experiences?

I understand that you aren't able to provide medical advice but in your experience, is lymph node removal of some sort mandatory? 

My sister has decided she would like to explore getting implants and reconstruction.  What is the usual process here?  We've heard that most plastic surgeons won't do any reconstruction until at least a month after surgery.  Is this your experience?  My sister is very concerned about waking up after surgery and is unsure how she'll cope over the next weeks until surgery is able to be completed.

She's also concerned about fertility and is wanting to explore the option of freezing her eggs.  Do any of you have experience here?  Do you know where we could start researching here?  Approximate costs?  Is it covered by some private health funds?

And lastly, she's really worried about losing her hair.  We've started looking at wig suppliers but they all seem so varied in terms of what's available and the pricing.  Do you have any you would recommend?  What cost are we looking at to get her a good natural looking one?

I think that's all we have at the moment.  I understand that there'll be support available along the way, but getting these questions answered before we get to the specialist will give us the best chance of being prepared.

I'm one of five in a large, close knit family.  Hopefully the support she'll get from us along with her amazingly strong mind will set her in good stead for the year to come.  I hope you might hear from her on here very soon.

I hope to hear from you soon.

Cass

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  • Tracee's avatar
    Tracee
    Member
    13 years ago
    Hi Cass, Sorry to hear about your sister, so much info and questions to take in, I had a mastectomy and reconstruction in the same operation last September. I was a private patient and was at least $5,000 out of pocket, I had 2 great surgeons and very happy with the result I had a tram flap reconstruction. I am going through Chemo at the moment and I am a hairdresser and live in Brisbane, I used a company called Starkles for a wig, it cost about $400 and I got some back from my health fund, they where very good, losing your hair is daunting but I have a great wig, scarves and caps to wear. Every ones diagnosis is so different, make sure you take a support person to all your medical appointments and write down all your questions as there is so much to absorb. It's great she has a wonderful supportive family to help get her through. Hope this helps Tracee
  • Anna89's avatar
    Anna89
    Member
    13 years ago
    Hi Cass Sorry to hear about your sister. I was diagnosed with breast cancer just over 12mths ago. I'm happy to share my experiences with you and hopefully they can answer so of your questions..... I have private health insurance and I have found my out of pocket expenses to be quiet minimal (I think I'm probably out of pocket less than $2000) I had a lumpectomy, mastectomy, chemo and radio..... When you go for surgery ask the anaesthesiologist to see if they will bulk bill. My hospital also did the chemo as an inpatient service so my private health cover covered this, I decided to go radio through the public jsystem and so this was all bulk billed.... For me the private system was great, had my own room in hospital and where I had the chem down was in a very in hospital like environment ( like a little cottage) if I had my time again I would chose exactly the same...I went to the mater hospital in Sydney and I couldn't give it a more glowing recommendation. I had lymph nodes removed but not many, I have had no side effects from this and from my point if view my surgeon felt it best that I do this to reduce the risk of it spreading so I followed her advice. Being young and fit will help her a lot in this process. I have currently got a tissue expander in at the moment, I'm going in next month to get my right breast removed (no cancer just a personal choice) and in December I will go back in, get the expanders removed and implants put in. My surgeon has done an amazing job and once again if I had my time again I wouldn't change anything. I think for me personally to have no reconstruction done and just have my breast removed would be very difficult to deal with....my reconstruction was done at the time of surgery, did the mastectomy and put the expander in at the same time...healed in two weeks and I was back at work. In regards to fertility for me, my biggest concern was getting rid of the cancer so I didn't want to prolong the treatment to harvest eggs. There is still a chance I will be able to have kids as the treatment didn't put me into early menopause....I will worry about kids when this is all over, my sister has also offered an egg donation if I have difficulty falling pregnant. Like I said for me getting rid of the cancer was my main priority. Yes with the chemo you will probably lose your hair on the upside you also loss your leg hair, under arm hair and pubic hair so no more waxing or shaving for a while!! For me once again losing my hair wasn't as bad as I thought, most days I just walked around bald... A lot of people do look at you and asked if I did shave for a cure but I didn't mind talking about and on the days I couldn't be bothered with people looking at me I wore a wig and with the wig people don't know at all... I went to the individual wig in Sydney and spent around $700 on 2 wigs, they were very natural looking and were comfy but as I said I did embrace my baldness and so didn't always wear them mainly for work etc... At the end of the day for me, it was hair it does grow back and I luckily had a well rounded head...my hair is now growing back and I think back to maybe shaving it off again...so much easier!! Lol.....my boyfriend has other ideas!! Your sister will find a lot of inner strength and she will surprise herself at how well she copes! She will have some down days where she hates what's happening but try not to get stuck to long in those feelings. For me I did t sit round asking why me...I did it, kept working only taking small amounts of time off and surrounding myself by people that care for me. It's a tough time but I'm out the other side and back to normal as far as my life prior to cancer. My mum refered to my cancer as an unwanted house guest which is pretty true... Anyway I hope some of this was helpful to you....if your sister wants I'm more than happy to show her pictures of what my reconstruction looks like. And if she has any other questions or wants to talk just get her to message me. Protect t yourselves from info over load, there is a lot of info out there which can be very over whelming, hopefully you have good doctors around and this network has great resources also. Anyway good luck with it all and feel free to get in contact if you want to chat anymore. Anna
  • SandraG's avatar
    SandraG
    Member
    13 years ago

    Hi Beck,

    I was diagnosed in April 2012, decided on mastectomy of left breast instead of lumpectomy and went through private system for surgery (also had a space saver implant inserted at the time of surgery) I had my chemo through the public system and couldn't falter it.

    I am due for reconstruction in April and will do that through private system.

    I too was concerned about the hair loss - lets face it who wouldn't be.  I purchased a wig on Oxford St in Sydney and its beautiful but I actually never wore it.  I felt much better bald wearing scarves or beanies rather than have to worry about if falling off or dealing with hot flushes.

    i have  blog you and your family are more than welcome to read.  hopefully it will give you all a laugh 

    you can start here..

    http://glynnandbearit.wordpress.com/2012/04/05/hello-world/

    I had 4 rounds of chemo, no radio.  Chemo wasn't as horrendous as i imagined.  Everyone is different.

    Oh.. great book to read Breast Cancer Taking Control by John Boyages - you can actually get it here on BCNA site i'm sure.

    I can't comment on egg freezing as I've already had kids but yes definitely something she should explore.

    Feel free to send through any other questions you may have.  And oh there is so much information out there sometimes its better not to dr google too much.

    Good luck, your sister is very lucky to have such great support already.

    love and light

    xox

    Sandra